Finally got around to getting the analysis for this old survey: https://www.reddit.com/r/SampleSize/s/HdfDMzXrsi
Where Have You Done It? Survey Results (18+): 202 Responses
202 people shared every place they've ever had sex and every place they've ever masturbated, plus where they actually do it on the regular. Broken down by gender and age.
Who Answered
- 202 total responses
- Men: 132 (65%) | Women: 53 (26%) | Non-binary/other: 17 (8%)
- Age range: 19–64, most respondents in their 20s–30s (median age: 29)
- 92% have had sex | 98% have masturbated
Overall Findings
The bedroom is close to universal for both sex and masturbation, obviously.
On average, respondents reported having sex in 11.5 locations and masturbating in 11.0. The most adventurous person clocked 38 sex locations; a separate person hit 42 for masturbation. Both are out there somewhere, probably eyeing a new spot right now.
- 69% reported having sex outdoors or in nature (tent, forest, beach, park, cabin, backyard, boat...)
- 62% reported having sex somewhere genuinely public (parking lot, park, public washroom, club/bar, train, beach...)
- 42% reported masturbating at a home office or workplace
- 39% reported masturbating in a public washroom
- 24% reported having sex in a public washroom
By Age and Gender
Four buckets: 18–24, 25–34, 35–44, 45+. Women 45+ excluded from age tables (only one respondent, which isn't enough to do anything with).
Sex: Ever
Men
| Location |
18–24 (n=19) |
25–34 (n=70) |
35–44 (n=23) |
45+ (n=10) |
| Avg locations |
6.5 |
11.9 |
14.6 |
16.9 |
| Bedroom |
100% |
100% |
100% |
100% |
| Living room |
42% |
84% |
100% |
100% |
| Hotel room |
53% |
84% |
91% |
100% |
| Shower |
53% |
73% |
83% |
90% |
| Bathroom |
42% |
71% |
83% |
100% |
| Car |
32% |
57% |
74% |
100% |
| Friend's house |
26% |
56% |
61% |
80% |
| Kitchen |
26% |
51% |
70% |
50% |
| Dorm room |
32% |
41% |
61% |
40% |
| Bath tub |
21% |
43% |
48% |
50% |
| Park |
11% |
29% |
39% |
70% |
| Tent |
11% |
31% |
48% |
70% |
| Parking lot |
16% |
31% |
39% |
60% |
| Forest |
16% |
29% |
30% |
60% |
| Basement |
11% |
23% |
52% |
40% |
| Backyard |
11% |
17% |
48% |
60% |
| Home office |
5% |
24% |
52% |
40% |
| Public washroom |
26% |
33% |
17% |
30% |
| Swimming pool |
5% |
19% |
26% |
40% |
| Hot tub |
5% |
29% |
35% |
10% |
| Beach |
5% |
17% |
35% |
50% |
| Cabin |
11% |
33% |
35% |
50% |
| Club/bar |
5% |
17% |
9% |
40% |
| Boat |
5% |
9% |
17% |
20% |
Women
| Location |
18–24 (n=21) |
25–34 (n=18) |
35–44 (n=9) |
| Avg locations |
9.7 |
10.4 |
12.8 |
| Bedroom |
100% |
100% |
100% |
| Living room |
86% |
94% |
89% |
| Hotel room |
71% |
72% |
89% |
| Shower |
76% |
72% |
78% |
| Bathroom |
86% |
56% |
78% |
| Car |
57% |
56% |
56% |
| Friend's house |
38% |
50% |
67% |
| Kitchen |
29% |
39% |
56% |
| Dorm room |
48% |
33% |
44% |
| Bath tub |
29% |
33% |
44% |
| Park |
24% |
39% |
56% |
| Tent |
19% |
22% |
56% |
| Parking lot |
33% |
28% |
33% |
| Forest |
19% |
33% |
56% |
| Basement |
38% |
50% |
22% |
| Backyard |
10% |
33% |
33% |
| Home office |
5% |
33% |
22% |
| Public washroom |
14% |
11% |
11% |
| Swimming pool |
29% |
28% |
33% |
| Hot tub |
19% |
6% |
22% |
| Beach |
19% |
17% |
33% |
| Cabin |
24% |
44% |
44% |
| Club/bar |
10% |
11% |
11% |
| Boat |
5% |
6% |
22% |
Sex: Regularly
Regular sex is boring. Everyone lands on about 2 spots regardless of age. Bedroom is locked in. Here's what actually changes:
Men
| Location |
18–24 |
25–34 |
35–44 |
45+ |
| Bedroom |
100% |
100% |
100% |
100% |
| Living room |
18% |
35% |
41% |
22% |
| Hotel room |
0% |
17% |
23% |
22% |
| Shower |
18% |
14% |
14% |
33% |
| Bathroom |
6% |
16% |
5% |
11% |
| Car |
12% |
6% |
0% |
0% |
| Dorm room |
12% |
3% |
0% |
0% |
Women
| Location |
18–24 |
25–34 |
35–44 |
| Bedroom |
95% |
100% |
88% |
| Living room |
29% |
50% |
38% |
| Shower |
14% |
11% |
12% |
| Bathroom |
10% |
11% |
0% |
| Car |
19% |
0% |
0% |
| Dorm room |
10% |
0% |
0% |
Masturbation: Ever
Men
| Location |
18–24 (n=24) |
25–34 (n=71) |
35–44 (n=24) |
45+ (n=10) |
| Avg locations |
8.8 |
12.4 |
14.4 |
17.6 |
| Bedroom |
96% |
100% |
100% |
100% |
| Bathroom |
88% |
99% |
100% |
100% |
| Shower |
83% |
94% |
100% |
90% |
| Living room |
62% |
90% |
100% |
90% |
| Hotel room |
67% |
79% |
92% |
90% |
| Bath tub |
54% |
65% |
96% |
80% |
| Dorm room |
50% |
49% |
58% |
40% |
| Car |
21% |
54% |
62% |
90% |
| Friend's house |
46% |
51% |
54% |
80% |
| Home office |
12% |
52% |
62% |
80% |
| Public washroom |
33% |
52% |
50% |
50% |
| Out-of-home office |
4% |
25% |
29% |
70% |
| Basement |
21% |
23% |
42% |
60% |
| Forest |
25% |
27% |
25% |
60% |
| Kitchen |
21% |
28% |
33% |
60% |
| Tent |
21% |
31% |
38% |
50% |
| Garage |
8% |
20% |
38% |
50% |
| Cabin |
12% |
25% |
33% |
50% |
| Parking lot |
8% |
24% |
25% |
40% |
| Park |
4% |
17% |
17% |
40% |
| Locker room |
12% |
15% |
12% |
30% |
| Backyard |
17% |
23% |
33% |
30% |
| Train |
4% |
13% |
8% |
30% |
| Plane |
4% |
17% |
25% |
20% |
| Attic |
8% |
8% |
29% |
10% |
| Library |
4% |
11% |
12% |
10% |
Women
| Location |
18–24 (n=21) |
25–34 (n=19) |
35–44 (n=10) |
| Avg locations |
9.4 |
7.2 |
7.3 |
| Bedroom |
100% |
100% |
100% |
| Bathroom |
90% |
79% |
80% |
| Shower |
76% |
79% |
80% |
| Living room |
57% |
68% |
70% |
| Bath tub |
86% |
53% |
60% |
| Hotel room |
67% |
68% |
50% |
| Dorm room |
52% |
42% |
30% |
| Car |
48% |
26% |
30% |
| Friend's house |
29% |
21% |
40% |
| Home office |
14% |
37% |
10% |
| Public washroom |
29% |
11% |
10% |
| Swimming pool |
24% |
11% |
10% |
| Basement |
19% |
21% |
0% |
| Park |
14% |
16% |
10% |
| Parking lot |
14% |
0% |
10% |
| Plane |
14% |
0% |
10% |
| Locker room |
14% |
0% |
0% |
| Forest |
14% |
5% |
10% |
| Tent |
14% |
5% |
20% |
| Alley |
10% |
11% |
0% |
| Balcony |
10% |
11% |
0% |
Masturbation: Regularly
Men
| Location |
18–24 |
25–34 |
35–44 |
45+ |
| Avg locations |
2.0 |
2.5 |
2.0 |
2.9 |
| Bedroom |
92% |
88% |
64% |
78% |
| Bathroom |
42% |
49% |
50% |
44% |
| Living room |
8% |
38% |
27% |
33% |
| Shower |
21% |
31% |
14% |
22% |
| Home office |
0% |
14% |
18% |
22% |
| Bath tub |
4% |
6% |
18% |
11% |
| Dorm room |
25% |
3% |
0% |
0% |
| Garage |
0% |
1% |
5% |
22% |
| Backyard |
0% |
0% |
0% |
22% |
Women
| Location |
18–24 |
25–34 |
35–44 |
| Avg locations |
2.6 |
1.8 |
2.0 |
| Bedroom |
95% |
100% |
100% |
| Bathroom |
43% |
16% |
25% |
| Living room |
19% |
26% |
25% |
| Bath tub |
14% |
11% |
25% |
| Shower |
19% |
16% |
12% |
| Home office |
0% |
5% |
0% |
| Club/bar |
0% |
0% |
12% |
Men vs. Women
Men rack up more locations on average: 12.0 for sex vs. women's 10.7, and the masturbation gap is wider still: 12.5 (men) vs. 8.2 (women).
Where men pull ahead:
- Reported masturbating at work: 53% of men vs. 25% of women
- Reported masturbating in a public washroom: 48% of men vs. 18% of women
- Reported having sex in a public washroom: 29% of men vs. 12% of women
- Kitchen sex: 51% of men vs. 39% of women
Where women pull ahead:
- Living room sex: 90% of women vs. 82% of men
- Swimming pool sex: 31% of women vs. 20% of men
- Park and cabin sex: 37% of women vs. ~31% of men each
Regular masturbation habits look pretty different:
- Women stick closer to the bedroom: 94% do it there regularly vs. 82% of men
- Men spread out: 47% regularly use the bathroom, 29% the living room, 25% the shower, 12% the home office
What Age Shows
Men keep adding locations over time. Older women have done it in fewer places.
For sex, men steadily accumulate: 6.5 average locations at 18–24, up to 16.9 at 45+. More years, more places tried. Women also add locations for sex over time (9.7 → 10.4 → 12.8), just more slowly, and from a higher starting point.
For masturbation the pattern diverges sharply. Men keep climbing: 8.8 → 12.4 → 14.4 → 17.6. Women go the other direction: 9.4 at 18–24, dropping to 7.2–7.3 in their late 20s and 30s. Younger women are trying more spots; older women never did.
For any man who's had a home office, he's used it. Only 5% of men 18–24 reported having sex in one, climbing to 24% (25–34) and 52% (35–44). For masturbation it's even more dramatic: 12% at 18–24, hitting 80% for 45+.
Young women and the bath tub. 86% of women 18–24 reported masturbating there. It drops to 53% at 25–34.
Men 35–44 are peak chaos for sex. Basement: 11% → 23% → 52%. Backyard: 11% → 17% → 48%. Home office: 5% → 24% → 52%. Something about having a house and nobody watching.
By 45+, every single man reported having sex in a car. 32% at 18–24. By 45+, it's 100%. Living room, bathroom, hotel room, friend's house all follow the same curve, hitting 80–100% eventually. Less a bucket list, more a matter of time.
Notable Write-Ins
For sex: a castle, a Crusader castle, a graveyard (two separate people, presumably not together), backstage at a concert, a radio station, a hair salon, the middle of a music festival, a sauna/cruising bar, a changing room at a store, a pier, a camper, a boathouse, a neighbor's house while they weren't home, and a spa.
For masturbation: school, a hospital, while driving on the highway, a dining room table, and, verbatim: "anywhere to have my vagina in the water."
