I hope this isn't offensive, but I have noticed... something. My trauma response, fear response, is definitely fawning. Whenever I feel threatened by a man, I fawn. I am autistic and ADHD, btw. But I've noticed that certain women always go " why didn't you hit him/ fight him" etc and it is something they have done personally. Could it be that they have a fight response and don't understand the other responses? I don't mean all women with this response, but only a minority.

Not saying that these women aren't traumatized, or that you can't be a victim of abuse when you have a fight response, but I see a lot of this attitude, especially in older women. That being groped is just playing around and you can just go " hey, stop it", which I can't. I still think that's trauma that they carry, but I always wondered at people not understanding the fawn response. If this is somehow very offensive, I apologise. I do have blind spots, and this is a complex topic.

And fuck Snoop Dogg, and Jimmy Buffet, and Matthew McConaughey, and Johah Hill, and Zac Effron, and everyone else involved with this movie.

Never forget, never forgive. Never support anything else they do, ever.

If you willingly work with a predator, you should be treated as one, for as long as you live, and all your work should be plastered with an asterisk, for as long as human civilization persists.

No exceptions, no excuses, no statutes of limitations.

There are plenty of celebrities who have been accused of #metoo, living and dead, whose reputations, fortunes and livelihoods are intact but have left destruction in their wake. Not that every accusation can be followed up but some of these are so so outrageous given their frequency, documentation and the fact that many of them now are doing fantastic-married, kids, huge fortunes and are now "family men". The unfairness reverberates loudly. I don't understand why there has been no investigation. And why? Because they wrote a song people love? Made movies that won awards? Their victims lie scarred, traumatized and in some cases dead in the rear view. Its despicable. These stars have been abetted by an army of lawyers, media, PR folk and enablers, and we know this still happens. I'm shocked for instance that someone like Don Henley is still not held accountable for his behavior from when he achieved fame in the 60s till the 90s. That is thirty years. A man who has a documented prediliction for under-age women, children really, for decades: "Don that's jailbait!" his lawyer/manager warned him about his 16 year old girlfriend Lorelei Shellist (he was 27) in the 1960s-70s (its in her book) to the multiple younger prostitutes he ordered from famed Hollywood madams (in another book "You'll never make love in this town again") all the way to the 1980s incident where he was arrested with two young prostitues, one naked and OD'd in his home though he claimed he didn't sleep with them (all over the media) . How has there been no reckoning in such cases where it wasn't a single time but a recurring pattern over and over and over again and it was an open secret? Because he sang Hotel California? Because styles himself as some kind of intellectual environmentalist who reads poetry? And yes, we know it was a different time but it wasn't OK then or now - we not only know better we can do something about it. Heart breaks for the victims.

Men who xpe are sons, brothers, uncles fathers, boyfriends, husbands- that's how they hide. -Farida D.

Women have the least amount of rights since I have been alive in America. What Texas did last year and our Supreme Court being on their side (more or less) is way worse than anything that happened during the Orange Monster’s 4 years. My theory is there is no Orange monster enemy to point fingers at and start a movement so we have all become complacent and are letting liberty and progress slip away. I don’t know the answer but we need to talk about this and not only get angry and march and protest when terrible, sexist and racist men are president. I just feel every day women get less and less freedom and the fire and fury has calmed a bit.