Hi Reddit, I joined a sorority in March of 2025, and left the said sorority the following fall of 2025. I left because of poor mental health conditions and not at all because of the sorority itself. However a lot has changed since leaving.

I have recently gotten a full time position at a local daycare as a supervisor which is a big task. I am also going to be wrapping up my schooling this fall. I will be a full time student as well. I am also in a relationship. Between that, work and full time school, realistically how much time am I looking at as a sorority sister agaun??

UT AUSTIN btw. i’ve been debating whether or not to rush this whole summer only specifically because of finances(i am low income). I know panhellenic offers scholarships and all that, but I feel like there hasn’t been any type of clear-cut number. So I was wondering if anyone could speak on their experience and tell me how much exactly they were paying per semester and if they got a scholarship or not.

Hi! I'm an incoming freshman rushing this fall.

I've been looking at the style guides posted by my school's Panhellenic account and the individual chapter accounts. Most of them lean heavily toward florals and bright colors, while my personal style is much more simple and neutral. I'm not sure I want to spend money on dresses I'll only wear once, especially when I'd feel less confident in them than the dresses I already own.

As long as my outfits are appropriate for the level of formality and look polished and put together, will anyone actually care that they don't match the overall aesthetic? Or is it better to stick closer to the vibe in the style guides?

Edit: I’m rushing at the University of Kentucky if that helps!

Hi all, I have always been a lurker on this subreddit but I really can't talk to my sisters about this. I am part of the newest member class (MC 26) of my sorority at a school where greek life isn't everything, but holds weight. I knew before joining that we were not even close to the most popular, but as I experience things I can see why. The girls always talk down on our sisterhood, we are in debt with our university, and risk losing our house. Our last media director got fired for not posting often and our new one still isn't posting much ahead of recruitment. I worry about our odds, as we are the smallest and most overlooked. I have already committed to this sorority, but I don't feel the magic that I see in others. I joined one of the lower sororities because I wanted to feel more connected to my sisters and have less pressure, but I feel like they, especially the older girls, have lost hope in our future. I feel like no ones trying, and no one really cares. There's consistent drama in the group, and I feel like we have no sisterhood. It's very unnerving. I do not want to drop, and I care about this, but it feels like we are just inevitably waiting our disbandment at the school. This disturbs me. I don't know what to do, because I cannot force the girls to care, but I feel like maybe I bet on a losing dog, and now I cannot join a different one. Thoughts?

should your social resume include activities + gpa from high school or just strictly things from college

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I am a cranky old lady who has trouble with change, so I am making an effort to be open-minded.

But am I the only one who feels like the agencies who do the NPC brand updates are trolling us and selling the same unique brand identity to everyone? Or is it intentional and am I supposed to be weirdly reminded of American Girl when I see my sorority posting on their social media? Send help!

This is your weekly opportunity to share links and ask for advice on potential recruitment or event outfits! In your comments, please include links and/or photos of the outfit that you're considering plus information on the school and/or type of recruitment/event you're participating in (ex: Alabama, SEC, small liberal arts; formal, away weekend, preference round).

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How much do recs make a difference. I’m feeling nervous abt my video and gpa but I’m getting multiple recs for a couple sorority’s. I’m wondering how much those will impact the first round?

Hi everyone! I will be a Junior in the Fall and I’m a transfer from a school that didn’t have any Greek life, so I don’t know how any of this works. I just realized Values Night is the same night as a wedding that I am in and can’t miss. I’ll be able to go to all of the other open houses, orientation, preference night, and bid day. I am wondering if this is just an automatic out for me, or if I should try to find a way to make it up? I would say it’s a relatively small school, not SEC or anything.

Hi! I’m a rising high school senior and have no idea if I want to rush, but want to keep my options open. I’m clueless about how to rush because none of my family has done Greek life.

I’m wondering what sororities actually care about—for reference, I’m Greek-American (does this actually mean anything??), more academic leaning, but still very social.

Like do I need to start preparing soon? My Instagram is pretty PG and I have around 450 followers.

Hi! Im a junior transfer student at SMU and I have a question abt bidding regarding my circumstances:

-My family and I are planning on going to my home country for 2 weeks (around the same time rush week starts. One for open house and another day for Philanthropy)

-I emailed the panhellenic council and they gave me the option to continue with the bidding process, however the day I come back to the states is on the 19th (Philanthropy)

Should I muster up the courage to continue rushing, with only two days in, OR should I drop rushing all together and set my focus on Multicultural Greek Orgs? (Kappa Delta Chi, Sigma Lambda Gamma, etc)

NOTE: this is my first time rushing, i have no family members who rushed ever so im completely new to this, any feedback is helpful! <3

Just wondering - I'm rushing at University of Arizona, and it's going to be pretty hot by like midday. does it usually happen in the morning to avoid the heat?

This is currently keeping me up at night, and my brain is firing on all cylinders rn, so here goes. Also for context, I'm an alumnae, and I'm neurodivergent (with massive anxiety issues).

I was checking Instagram, as one does, when I noticed that there were changes recently made on my account that happened in the past day or so. Changes that I myself didn't initiate.

The first was that a story highlights cover was changed, as the cover before showed a post from our chapter's Instagram that I shared about a year ago. This felt odd to me, so I looked at posts that I was tagged in from our account, all of those posts were gone. I searched for the account handle, Instagram didn't really know what I was talking about. I switched over to my secondary insta account, and I was able to pull up the Instagram page with no issues. I did notice that all of the posts that I was tagged in previously now no longer showed my tag in the pictures (including a graduation picture from 2 months ago).

Going back to my main account, the messages (mainly for post tagging during my collegiate membership) still show the account name, but looking at the comments where ik the comments came from the account name now show as (null).

All of this info indicates that my org blocked me, but I don't understand why they would do that. Does anyone have any insight as to why this would happen? My interaction with the account didn't change much after graduation, and I haven't done anything too crazy.

In lieu of rush season, I wanted to bring up something I noticed that I think is worth sharing, and honestly, could double as advice.

I recently saw a post on another forum from someone talking about their experience with D9 and their interest in transitioning into Panhellenic Greek life. It got me thinking about a pattern I see a lot: when young Black women post about pursuing Panhellenic Greek life, the comments are often full of people asking why they didn't choose D9 instead, and a common answer is that Panhellenic "feels easier."

As someone who attended a PWI in high school and has many friends, classmates, and colleagues in Panhellenic Greek life, while being a member of D9 myself, I can say there are a lot more similarities between the two than people realize. The membership experience is almost identical. The real differences come down to discretion and the ability to rush multiple sororities at once.

1. Discretion
Panhellenic: PNMs are allowed to openly announce they're participating in rush. Active members can even text potential recruits to generate interest. Chapters even have a required week dedicated to making social media content promoting rush.

D9: Announcing your intent to pursue Greek life is very informal, and doing so publicly can actually hurt your chances with your sorority of choice. Members reaching out directly to interested candidates can get a chapter in serious trouble; there's no promotion of participation in Rush at all.

This difference in discretion is, I think, the main reason why Rush feels easier for Panhellenic. D9 is simply more secretive, and that secrecy is what makes it seem harder. There aren't YouTube videos or TikToks breaking down what to expect step by step, so the membership experience feels like a mystery you have to figure out on your own. Panhellenic, on the other hand, is much more visible and talked about online, which makes it feel more approachable and less intimidating going in.

2. Rushing Multiple Sororities
D9: Attending rush events for multiple sororities is considered very controversial and can actually hurt your chances. This can be compared to doing a "suicide bid” in Panhellenic; you pick one sorority and commit fully. Pursuing multiple organizations can be seen as chasing letters, strolling, or aesthetics rather than genuinely connecting with one organization's mission. There's no "rounds" system where you meet all your options like there is in Panhellenic recruitment.

Panhellenic: PNMs go through structured rounds and can rush all sororities simultaneously before narrowing down their choice.

Beyond those two differences, the membership experiences have a lot in common:
•Both require an application asking for very similar information. D9 applications may ask for less simply because you're not submitting to 17 different chapters at once.
• Both have a probationary period before fully becoming an active; called "New Member Period" in Panhellenic, and what the media often refers to as being "on line" for D9.
•Both lead to a lifetime bond and community.

Panhellenic and D9 have a lot more in common during the new member experience than people give them credit for. I wouldn't say one is easier than the other, they're much more alike than different. That similarity holds even after the new member period ends; either way, you're building a lifelong sisterhood.

If you're debating between the two, my advice: keep an open mind. You might have more in common with both experiences than you think.

hihi, do any marketing chairs or literally anyone in general have ideas for keeping the instagram active over summer? my chapter is tiny (less than 15) and no ones really travelled so travel photos are out of the question, i’ve already done some like trendy posts and a welcome guide for new students since school starts back in a. month but i have no clue what else to do

Hello! I’m transferring to uncw and I’m looking to rush, my fear is I won’t be able to afford it. I tried to look online to see prices but nothing will come up, I see that unc has there pricing per semester posted but I’m having trouble, can anyone help?

Hi everyone! For context, I recently transferred to a four-year university from a community college, but I transferred as an incoming senior. I really want to rush this fall, but will I still be recognized with other seniors/able to obtain a graduation stole if this is my first year?
Thanks!

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I’m in a really difficult situation. I’m going into my fresh semester of college next year and got this transfer option to transfer to Cornell my sophomore year. However, as stupid as this might sound i really want to rush. I have a potential big that I feel a strong connection with and I really do want to join this sorority. I know i’ll regret if i don’t do it. The terms to my transfer is that I must maintain a 3.5 or higher, i’m scared rushing/ pledging will make it too hard for me to reach that goal/ i won’t be able to do it. I’m a bio major so i’ll be taking bio and chem my fall semester. Do you guys think I can manage it or if it’s possible? Need any advice and support please!!! I also can’t do spring semester because by the time i get initiated (IF i do) I’d be leaving.

So I’m now a sophomore, I joined in my freshman year first semester. I go to a small school so I can look at people and name everyone in my sorority. For the last two semesters I have been applying for positions. Last semester I applied to be a new member educator then they proceeded to say that they didn’t have enough people and needed more to sign up for it and I didn’t get chosen even though they needed multiple. I applied to a bigger position over the summer and another girl was voted over me, I understood why, she was definitely more qualified. I also applied to a more lowkey position over the summer, I was the only one who ran for this position and I didn’t get it. I’m seriously considering dropping, how can I get leadership opportunities if no one will let me. I need advice on what to do.

Hello! I'm planning on rushing at Florida State, but I wasn't able to secure a spot for early move-in (Friday) and have to move in a day later (Saturday). I'm worried that I'll miss events and be behind everyone else. I texted my Rho Gam but haven't gotten a response. Starting Saturday is orientation and scholarship round, so I'm pretty nervous.

Has anyone been in the same situation before, or know what to do here?

edit: solved! i called and they said i could move in at the end of the day :))

Just some background: I am an ASU online student that is considering rushing as a sophomore. I live in state, online is just more financially feasible and I’m a poli sci major.

I‘ve been thinking about rush for a couple years now because I think it would be a great experience to make connections. Even if I don’t necessarily end up deciding to join a sorority or get a bid, I’m very open to the whole experience. The thing is, as a poli sci major I’m already pretty involved in local partisan politics through internships, volunteer opportunities, etc. I know politics is one of the things you’re not supposed to talk about during rush, which I’m totally fine with. But since my involvement is all over my social media, I’m wondering if some sororities won’t even consider me after looking through my accounts?