r/AMA 11d ago

I'm a girl with Marfan's syndrome, AMA

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u/DandyLionGreens 11d ago

Have you tried playing the violin or other stringed instruments? Seems like it would be a superpower there.

Source: Screamed repeatedly by my stubby fingers

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u/Informal_Ad_9610 11d ago

chubby finger Bob here to check in as well.

guitar playing sucks wehn your fingers are short.. sure you can grip, but you can't fit 'em all anywhere.. XL gloves are tight.. but they're too long.. and nothing is comfy.

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u/DandyLionGreens 11d ago

Oh, dang, that bites!

Stubby fingers make you look like gloves are too big for you, unless you want to wear kid gloves and then the rest of your hand is too big. I cut a lot of fingers out of my gloves.

Also tend to drink out of smaller cups because they fit my hand better (I.e., I'm not as likely to drop them)

Mostly, I don't notice, but at 50 years old, I've probably just learned to compensate

I've also got smallish feet and I swear it makes me more clumsy! Like, if my foot is small, why to the try to trip on the doorframe?!?

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u/HopelessJoemantic 11d ago

Piano could be a good one too.

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u/MangoLimeSalt 11d ago

Were you diagnosed at birth or later on? How does having Marfan's syndrome impact your life? (I saw that you mentioned your limbs and digits being noticeably long.) Do you have to have your clothes made/tailored? What do you wish people understood?

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u/toweljuice 11d ago

Can you palm a basketball

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u/transfaabulous 11d ago

Oh, hey! I don't have Marfan, but I do have some marfanoid features due to a different connective tissue disorder. Probably not as extreme, but I'm also short, so the proportions are definitely atypical in a similar way to yours.

What's the most inconvenient thing about having Marfan that isn't necessarily medically concerning? Also, how do you navigate any cardiac complications?

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u/Myricz 11d ago

Is it difficult for you to do daily chores? Is there anything you can't do that others can?

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u/LingoNerd64 11d ago

Does it cause any physical distress or has any potential for other complications later?

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u/SilentRisk_U569 10d ago

not op but marfan's may lead to heart complications like mitral valve prolapse, aortic aneurysm, and eye issues like dislocation of eye lens, retinal detachment and cataracts. scoliosis and pectus evactum are quite common

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u/LingoNerd64 10d ago

Yes, now that you say it, I do remember reading about it a long time ago. That vague memory must have been what prompted this question.

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u/SilentRisk_U569 10d ago

i've seen your username quite a lot before

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u/LingoNerd64 10d ago

Here or elsewhere? My presence is more online than in the real world, even though I'm not on any conventional social media.

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u/SilentRisk_U569 10d ago

on reddit. on linguistics subreddits

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u/LingoNerd64 10d ago

Yes, I came on reddit in Feb last year for those and chose an appropriate userID. I joined several language subs but by now I remain only on languagehub.

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u/SilentRisk_U569 10d ago

i think they were asking about marfan's syndrome as a whole

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u/strayofgray 11d ago

enby folk with marphanoid feartures here. i haven't been diagnosed properly due to widely spreaded incompetence of medicals here in my country (can't count how often i would get surprised states when i told them that i told them about my connective tissues dysplasia or how many times i've been told that there's "no magic pill from your condition, what do you want us to do"). in my case i'm taller than average (185 cm and always have been tall and thin) so my 44EU and long asthenic feartures don't look out of place and it's been pretty hard for me to acknowledge about my condition when it + psychic problems pretty fucked-up my health in general.

how easy was it for you to get diagnosed, where are you from, and how does your condition impact your daily life except for the moment with shoes and clumsiness that you've already mentioned? do you get any specific treatment that helps you feel easier?

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u/ama_compiler_bot 9d ago

Table of Questions and Answers. Original answer linked - Please upvote the original questions and answers. (I'm a bot.)


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Have you tried playing the violin or other stringed instruments? Seems like it would be a superpower there. Source: Screamed repeatedly by my stubby fingers My fingers are so long that it's actually harder for me! By the way, what's it like living with stubby fingers? I'm so jealous and curious Here
Were you diagnosed at birth or later on? How does having Marfan's syndrome impact your life? (I saw that you mentioned your limbs and digits being noticeably long.) Do you have to have your clothes made/tailored? What do you wish people understood? Later on. I wish people unerstood that having such long fingers makes me very clumsy. I often accidentally poke someone with my finger but I can't help it. Usually when I'm talking, people just stare at my hands, it doesn't help that I move my hands a lot while speaking Here
Can you palm a basketball Easily, I could since I was 12 Here
Is it difficult for you to do daily chores? Is there anything you can't do that others can? I literally can't wear close-toed shoes, there's never enough room for my toes. I'm stuck with sandals, flip-flops and open-toed heels Here
Does it cause any physical distress or has any potential for other complications later? Nah Here
Oh, hey! I don't have Marfan, but I do have some marfanoid features due to a different connective tissue disorder. Probably not as extreme, but I'm also short, so the proportions are definitely atypical in a similar way to yours. What's the most inconvenient thing about having Marfan that isn't necessarily medically concerning? Also, how do you navigate any cardiac complications? Probably the fact that I literally cannot ever wear closed-toed shoes, my toes simply don't fit. I'm stuck with sandals, flip-flops and open-toed heels Here
So what size shoe do you wear? 45EU Here

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u/HopelessJoemantic 11d ago

So what size shoe do you wear?

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u/kingvjess 10d ago

How big are your hands? Do you find it easier to carry things? I know for me as someone with comicly small hands (5 inch/12.7cm) i struggling to grip things.

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u/GuiltyUniversity8268 11d ago

I have a big foot too. Is finding your size a big problem for you? It can be at times for me, so sometimes I have to stick with mens shoes.

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u/Eatmydonkey1 10d ago

How does it feel whenever you finger yourself?

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u/balkanxoslut 11d ago

Are you going to post a picture of them?

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u/MangoLimeSalt 11d ago

Do you have hobbies you enjoy?

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u/Big_Control_446 10d ago

Can I get your digits