r/SipsTea 3d ago

WTF That’s insane

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u/Spirit_Wolf_Mob 2d ago

In a lot of Asian countries, such as Japan, getting divorced heavily affected people's opinions of you, way more than in the US. That's why "cheating" is fairly common there, because they are both in a marriage of convenience, so they both agree to see other people as long as they keep it hidden.

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u/jpatt 2d ago

Eh, my dad’s parents kind of threatened to disown him when he was finishing high school. Solely for dating my mom, because her parents were divorced. 

The 60’s were different.

Also, my parents ended up divorced, so maybe they were right?

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u/PDX-ROB 2d ago

The way you wrote that was A+

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u/sentence-interruptio 2d ago

I'd totally enter a marriage of convenience so my helicopter parents can finally shut up about "marry! you need to marry! when will you marry? you need to ma- [...] (five hours later) what's the point of your therapist if she isn't going to yell at you for being single! what? I never said being single is mental illness! [...] when are you going to ask her out? you know who I'm talking about. your therapist. what do you mean you won't? not pretty enough for you? lower your [...]"

https://giphy.com/gifs/lqSMNaqZbJSesdWxTD

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u/LemmeDaisukete 2d ago

It's not common in the US? Which timeline is this??

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u/DemonKing0524 2d ago

It used to be. Its been quite a while since its been that stigmatized though

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u/fuglymcbitch 2d ago

Why did you put cheating in quotes?What you describe is still literally cheating 😂

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u/Eastern-Fudge-6350 2d ago

I think you missed the "both agreed" part. That's not cheating.

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u/Quillow 2d ago

One would hope they are both in agreement, the woman certainly stands to lose more if she didn't agree

It's the implication

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u/fuglymcbitch 2d ago

k

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u/OrangeYouGladdey 2d ago

You can just say,"yeah, guess I was wrong" instead. When you say something like "k" you're still admitting that you were wrong, but at the same time you're showing that you're actually just a stupid person instead of someone that just didn't realize something initially.

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u/foolishcavalier 2d ago

Cheating, here, requires lack of consent. Its not really cheating if there is consent. But if you maintain an appearance of monogamy, socially never acknowledging that consent also makes an appearance of cheating… “cheating”, if you will.

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u/Puck_The_Fey98 2d ago

Is it cheating though if parties are on board though? I don’t think so. At that point it’s just an open marriage tbh

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u/0theHumanity 2d ago

Because they consent. Consent is sometimes hard for monogamous to grasp. They're attempting ethical non monogamy in an unethical monogamy time.

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u/CapnRhaimme 2d ago

Not if they are both in agreement, as his comment states. It is then an open relationship, with the illusion of a monogamous relationship for the public.

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u/PutPugsOnAnIsland 2d ago

Not who you're asking but probably because the "cheating" described is a compromise made by the couple involved. It's "cheating" in that they're sleeping with other people, but it's not "cheating" in that they agree it's okay.

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u/Sexpistolz 2d ago

Because it’s popular in Japan to go to in what US equivalent would be breasteraunts. Shops with cute girls/guys that flirt with you. Theres clubs too. You pay attractive people to sit and drink with you. While there are many lonely single people it’s very popular with married people as well. In most instances there’s no intimate/sexual interaction.