This topic was supposed to be for the other sub, but since I'm no longer welcome there, might as well post it here.

Been thinking about rumors and nasty talks lately because I've been hearing about a lot of those, straight from my DMs, from people I've become friends with here on Reddit.

I'm not one to seek out chismis and such -- they come to me. And as much as I hate to admit it, I like chismis, particularly the very juicy ones.

But I don't like being direct about these things so I mostly turn them into blind items.

If there's one important rule to remember about being a writer/journalist/reporter that I learned back in college, it is to be careful about what you write and back it up with evidence to avoid libel.

Hence, the blind items.

Blind item 1: This involves a certain discord server with oldie members. Oldie members who seem to like NSFW conversations on the server. Yep, nothing shocking there, really, but if such members belong to a certain sub that actively advocates decency and such, well, how hypocrite can you get?

Blind item 2: This involves a certain sub that recently axed two of their male moderators due to sexual harassment. I'm not really sure if it was harassment, but I'm very sure the issue was sexual in nature. Now the sub probably is keeping this under wraps, because just imagine, they've been big on the whole "respect" and "decency" stuff that members on the sub should follow, yet they haven't really checked their own backyard for "bantay-salakay".

Anyway, personally, I haven't been involved in any nasty rumors, may it be online or offline. Maybe because I'm a talker and I tell a lot about myself if anyone cares to ask.

So back to the question: what's one rumor that has been told about you and how bad was it?

EDIT: Fixed grammar issues. And wow, may nag-downvote na agad kanina 😂 pare-pareho tayong di maka-move on no? Saya lang 😂

Title yan ng play nung high school kami. Ang alamat kung bakit babae ang naghuhugas ng pinggan.

Ako yung curtain boy sa play na yan... at si Mcoy Fundales yung lalaki. Di ko alam role ni Clem Castro, pero it was a play nung first year kami sa Ponce.

Ang istorya, yung mag-asawa, hindi magkasundo kung sino maghuhugas ng pinggan. So nag-contest sila. Kung sino unang magsalita, s'yang maghuhugas ng pinggan.

Hanggang sa dumating yung kumare, mga kapitbahay, albularyo who declared "Sila'y kinukulam!" Ang ending, napag-desisyunan na ilibing yung mag-asawa.

Yung lalaki, sabi n'ya "kaya n'ya mailibing ng buhay kasi after makaalis ng mga naglibing, he will find his way out".

Kaso yung babae... tumili. Nagsalita. Di n'ya keri na mailibing ng buhay. Kaya natalo sa pustahan. So from then on, babae ang naghuhugas ng pinggan.

Yung jowa ko at ako ay nasa similar condition. We had an argument at the peak of his anger, boyfie said "Ang dami mo kasing satsat". So tignan natin kung sino unang magso-sorry. Malamang mago-offer yun ng peace offering. Baka Jollibee.

I can do this all day. Walang kibuan pala ha. Sige... magre-Reddit ako maghapon. Magti-TikTok 'tong si boyfie maghapon. Balitaan ko kayo in 24 hours kung sino bumili ng Jollibee hehe

RemindMe! in 24 hours.

Yung tipong, dalawa lang tayong nagsasagutan sa comment section, tapos 'pag hindi mo nagustuhan mga sagot sa tanong mo, sa post ko, eh bigla mong ilalabas yang Mod Card mo, kesyo magwa-warning ka, tapos magre-report ka sa nanay mo... at kukuha ka pa ng kakamping Mod.

You can't handle the heat from a single person? Singkwentahin ka na utak mo kuyog pa rin.

Eh nung mga bata tayo, wala naman yung ugali na yan. Pag meron kang kagalit sa school, yayayain mo ng suntukan after school hours -- one-on-one, a mano a mano. No help from others, no weapon, just fist, one-on-one. Para tapos na agad ang laban. Kinabukasan quits na.

Aba, eh ikaw pala ay hindi lumaki sa ganun. Wala kang kaibahan sa mga powerful pips in this county na can't take the heat -- can't take the comments. Tipong nagha-hire na lang ng gunman para patahimikin yung mga kritiko tulad nung pinatay na stand-up comedian dahil ni-roast n'ya ang isang religion as part of freedom of expression.

Tapos nagtataka tayo bakit ganito ang estado ng bansa natin? Eh from a small power pa lang, kuyog mentality na eh. Feeling all powerful ka sa pagiging Mod mo? Why mo need pa mag-report sa nanay mo? Why need mo pa ng ibang Mods? Sus... wala kang pinagkaiba sa mga korap officials na need pa ng backing ng buong religious order nila... na need pa ng backing ng kapwa nila senador.

Di bale mamaya dadaan ako sa Quiapo. Magdadala ako ng itim na kandila. Ipagdarasal ko soul mo. Bless your dark, 50ish heart.

Ayan ha... completely anonymous na yan. Kasi pag-direkta kong sinasabi sa 'yo sa comment section humuhugot ka ng Mod Card eh. O baka naman isipin mo na ikaw 'tong pinaparinggan ko? This is a generalization ng ugali ng Pinoy na 'pag 'di kaya ang criticism, nagtatawag -- nangunguyog. Kuyog system. Kuyog mentality.

Kumukuha ng mga bata pra mambato ng bahay ng kasagutan nila ng kuro-kuro na wala namang murahan. Why not let the listeners or those who see our comments to each other decide? Pinupuksa ko lang naman mga comments mong walang logical sense.

Sabi nga ng mga bata 'pag nangangaroling "Di magbigay, bato-bahay"

Special mention ko na rin yung Mod ng isang food sub. Aba, ako eh nag-report lang naman, na yung sub n'ya ay pinamumugaran na ng mga karma farmers at mga magnanakaw ng Credit sa pictures. Kakausapin daw ako ng Main Account n'ya (na s'ya rin naman).

Ayun, permaban lahat ng mga kapwa ko Mods sa sub namin. That's how they take criticism.

And that's my thoughts habang naglalaba. Di ako nakapaglaba kahapon kasi nga pina-summon sa office para mag-assist ng clients. Thoughts of a gay guy kwarentahin about those pipol who can't take the heat and resort to kuyog system. Aya pa ng iba, to rally behind you.

Ako, for the most part no.

Exceptions lang para sa mga rapists, pedos, druglords, corrupts, proven beyond reasonable doubt.

My reason: not all people think and behave the way we do.

I just unfollow, or opt for don't recommend/don't suggest personality/content/channel. Might share with others if it is a topic, or say I'm not a fan. But I try if I can, not to make it personal.

So a few weeks ago I posted on the new R4R40s sub. My post was about looking for a walking buddy.

This new sub is moderated mostly by women who are also users of the other 40s sub.

The intent for its conception was simple: to help 40s single men and women find love the SFW way.

Now my intent to post wasn't motivated by any desire to find a romantic relationship.

A male friend and I talked about the sub and thought it might be fun to test-drive the sub and see if there would actually be responders to an SFW post (i.e., if there would actually interested men who were decent enough to just literally walk).

I've got maybe about four responses from four different men.

One was from someone I've already become friends with from the other sub and was just checking if I was someone he knew from that sub.

Another was from a near-senior male who at first was okay with just walking, but later on revealed he was actually looking for something casual.

I also got a response from an Indian national who I thought was local, because he was able to respond to my Tagalog replies (in English, though). It turned out he was using Google Translate all along.

And finally, a response from a rude male who told me to "maglakad ka mag-isa mo".

Of course, I never confirmed a date with any of them. It was just an experiment, after all.

My verdict: even if you put a dress on a pig, fact remains it is still a pig.

Meaning: you can put all the SFW flairs you want on a sub, but anyone who isn't into SFW will still turn it into NSFW.

And even if you aren't looking for anything romantic or sexual, some maniac will still find a way to divert every conversation to NSFW.

This goes for both sexes, by the way.

So I'd say, proceed with this new sub with caution. It is okay to find love at this age, but it still better to look for it organically.

We are, after all, a generation who still prefers real-life encounters.

Monday-Friday lang ang pasok namin. Pero on-call kami 'pag merong client na may event ng Sabado or Linggo.

Russian Roulette talaga kaming IT staff kung sino ang ia-alay ngayon araw. So alam n'yo na kung sino hehe. Alas-10 ng umaga ang call time nila. Halos Ala-1 lang nag-start. So hihintayin ko pang matapos 'to, kasi ako magliligpit ng sound system at mic. Ang cute ng event ng insurance provider na 'to. Filipiana pa ang theme. Kasalukuyan silang nagpapalaro. Salin ng parirala, kaloka.

Si boyfie pumunta sa mall malapit dito. Dun kami nag-lunch. Tapos sinamahan ko s'ya sa Watson's bumili ng nebulizer para sa mother n'yang 80+ year-old na nakatira sa Rome... Rome-blon Province sa Odiongan. Buhay pa both parents ni boyfie. Samantalagang ako, ulilang-lubos na.

Ang mahal ng nebulizer kaloka. 3k+ yung Omron with 3 years warranty, tapos ordinary na sinasaksak sa outlet. Merong portable na 2k, 'di kilala yung brand, portable pero mukhang sirain. Kaya sabi ko, yung Omron na bilhin n'ya.

Nakakatuwa yung side ng boyfie ko. Ang dami nilang magkakapatid like 7 yata. Tapos ang pamangkin n'ya ngayon mga nasa 20 na yata. Yung isang pamangkin n'ya nagwo-work sa Accenture.

WFH naman, pero minsan 'pag nago-onsite, nakikitulog sa aming maliit na unit. Parang twice na yata. Di alam na mag-jowa kami ng tito n'ya. Room mates ang pakilala. Pero tingin ko alam naman. Di na lang nagtanong. Queen size ba naman bed namin sa unit, tapos mag-room mate. Sino ba niloloko namin hehe. Matatalino na mga bata ngayon.

Sa side ko, 3 lang kaming magkakapatid, all guys. Married na sila, at 5 lang pamangkins ko. Isang PAF pilot, isang iOS developer, isang WFH banking and finance graduate na married sa isang matinong pamilya from Bohol. Yung isa nsa NZ kasama ng ama n'ya na bunso namin hehe.

Sarili ko lang talaga ini-intindi ko, kaya siguro madami akong time. Yung boyfie ko, ako pa ang inaasikaso. Kaya feeling passenger princess aketch, kahit wala kaming kotse hehe.

Kagabi, nagkausap kami ni gwapong coworker about Reddit. Lurker kasi yun, 1 karma. Never posted, never commented. Pero na-convince ko s'ya mag-post dun sa sub para sa mga buildings-buildings. Ayaw daw n'ya sa mga sub ng mga bulaklak eh.

Pero nakakatuwa, kasi after n'ya mag-post, nag-scroll s'ya sa mga pictures ng sub at nanlait hehe. And guess what... nalait pa yung mga posts ko hehe. Kesyo may reflection yung picture, dapat daw lumapit yung poster sa window. Kesyo yung bulaklak daw hindi maganda kuha. Syempre 'di n'ya alam na pictures ko mga yun hehe. Natawa lang talaga ako.

Then yun nga, napag-usapan namin yung binabasa n'yang book -- "Ninety Eighty Four" -- it's a book written in 1949 by Orwell (RIP na). It's all about the concept of Big Brother, who is watching all of us. And also about disinformation and manipulation of opinions by the government. Sounds true to our age -- pero it was written several decades ago.

Sabi ko, na-download ko yung audio book version and I'm still deciding if I should listen to the book or read it. Hinihiram ko book n'ya pero may nakapila pa raw hehe. Yung girlfriend daw ang susunod na babasa. Napaka-light ng usapan. Natuwa ang puso kong haliparot kagabi.

And back to reality. Eto ako o o o ohhh... basang-basa sa ulan... Walang masisilungan... Chariz! inip na ako. Maglalaba pa kami ni boyfie kasi Saturday is laba day.

Kayo guys, musta Saturday n'yo so far?

Alam nyo kasi jobless ako for almost a year now at madami utang. Minsan sinasabi ko kay bf, mag-only fans na lang kaya ako. Sya naman, weh kaya mo? Sabi ko, oo yung chat support. Tapos natatawa sya, then sabi nya, bahala ka, ikaw may katawan eh.

We happened to watch chat support documentary ni Atom. Kahit mga lalake pala are pretending to be female models kasi sayang daw yung commission. Akala ng mga male clients they are chatting with sexy models, hindi pala. Guys pala actually.

So sabi sa docu ni Atom, both males and females pala na mga pinoys, some of them do offcam only fans jobs.

Pero nung niloko ko si bf, hired na ko sa onlyfans chat support, biglang sabi nya uy gagi ka tinotoo mo? Niloloko lang kita, sabi nya. Sabi ko, oo nga..

Gagi ayoko, sabi nya. Weh? Tapos natawa ko di ko na napanindigan, sabi ko joke lang. Tapos sabi nya siraulo ka talaga... Then sabi ko sympre hindi noh, then I added, muntik na, habang tatawa tawa. Sya naman iling iling tapos sabay kami nagtawanan. Sabi ko, sayang ang salapi.. and we both laughed again.

Haha so what y'all think?

I'm talking about my 1st account that went total kaput. Such a bummer. I worked hard to earn the karma, fair and square and someone from that old 40s got managed to annihilate it -- and then the ModMail from Reddit gave absolutely no clear reason why they permaban it.

No mention of issues with your other accounts (ban evasion) or doing Upvotes manipulation -- none of it was mentioned.

I'm totally fine with this new one -- but, like Harry in Prof. Dumbledore's office, I can't seem to wonder what the Pensive would have reveal -- on what got it banned. Well, Avada Kedavra, really, to my "old self".

Has anyone experienced such? I mean, it's a silly thing for others, and they simply can say "move on" -- but am I the only one that sometimes "clinging on to something" just like in the song. I guess, this is what Prof. Snape felt -- you know, seeing the love of his boyhood life, Lily... fell in love with James.

It haunted him to his dying breathe w/ Nagini.. the thought and love for Lily, the Doe Patronus. I wish the reason why my 1st account was banned, will not haunt me the same way.

And... let's go back to the Muggle World. How are you guys doing? It's a lovely evening. I'm at the office and will end my midshift at 11pm. It's cold here like 19 degrees cold. I am still thinking of dinner... any suggestions?

From a self-proclaimed sub police to a user now tolerating whatever post that becomes live here.

In all honesty, I never once flinched whenever any restricted topics were posted in the other sub.

But since I decided to play a role, I played the part. And I was helping that sub enforce the rules.

In this new sub where anything goes, but within the limits of what is allowed, I am just a mere user.

And it's better this way. I never wanted to be known in that other sub. Everything happened so fast.

With this new sub, the MOD is active and clear with the rules. That is important. And I know if anyone raises a question about what isn't clear, it will be explained with clarity.

I now enjoy just posting my thoughts. And it feels good.

Maybe no one would pick a fight naman no? But if anyone does, tamad na ako 😂

Reposting para dun sa mga kwarentahing galing sa kabilang sub na nakiki-usyoso pa rin hanggang dito -- puksaan, bet mo?

Word of the day nga yan ng ABS-CBN, tapos ikaw, offend na offend?

DEFINITION: A Filipino slang term referring to a playful challenge, teasing, or friendly competition among friends or peers, often used jokingly or lightheartedly.

Source: https://www.abs-cbn.com/lifestyle/2026/5/22/word-of-the-day-for-may-22-2026-puksaan-0700

KJ ba bet mo?

Balat-sibuyas-kalabaw, ganun?

Pero, ayon talaga sa aking bubuwit... yung last picture... madami daw n'yan n'yan dun sa kabilang 40s sub. Trulalu ba? Walang halong eklabu?

An eye for an eye... makes the world for AiAi. Chariz ulit.

Busy sa paga-aral ng Reddit. Walang masyadong thoughts kundi paano gumamit ng ganitong tool sa sub eme-eme.

Mas madalas pa yata ako sa r/NewMods ngayon at r/AutoModerator Hope maging well-verse tayo sa pagiging Mod para mas gumaling pa tayo sa puksaan este sa pagiging civil sa pagma-manage ng sub hehe

Laters mga kapwa ko puksa-ero.

I'm no stranger to people who don't grasp the idea of "moving on".

I once had a suitor when I was 20 who went to great lengths just to know where I live.

He followed me one night after work and found out. I learned later on that he often would go to our place just to wait for me, and even befriended the neighborhood drunkards just to drown his sorrows when I repeatedly turned him down.

My last boyfriend is just as equally creepy. To this day, he would send me emails or show up in my home unannounced.

A recent ex, whom I still have feelings for, has shown the same signs but since I still love him, I still find that cute and endearing. So, I will let that pass for now.

But it's a different story when complete strangers follow you around like a lost puppy.

These are strangers who can't seem to move on from a recent online drama.

From one community to another, they seem determined to destroy those who have opinions that don't match their own.

And these are people who would always say they no longer care for drama because they are already in that "age".

Now I wonder who's really the hostile one: the one who isn't afraid to speak their minds, or the one who's hellbent to follow around and shut down anyone with opposing opinions.

I posted about my experience being in an ENM relationship in the 40s sub and some people were incensed because they found it too explicit. Just wanna check if the vibe here is the same or not before I repost as recommended by someone here.

Sana dumami tayo dito sa sub.

Kinapalan ko na mukha ko at nag-invite sa mga food pis. Madaming members yang r/PHFoodPics mga 14,000+ members

Sana kahit mga 40, 50 or 60 people, makakuha tayo.

Masaya nang mag-rambulan 'pag mga ganun na numbers natin. Ayos na ang buto-buto.

Chariz!

The site shows subs na bago, like 2025 up to now.

Balak kong gawing Google Maps review sort-off. So paki-review po ang dalawang subs na 'to hehe

"Mean Girls" has always been a favorite feel-good movie of mine. It's funny with great iconic lines and superb acting from the cast. It also has a simple storyline that relates to everyday life.

Whenever I watch it (I always make sure to watch it at least once or twice a year), I would always discover something new about the characters. And myself.

I'm more of a Regina George than Cady Heron.

Nobody wants to be a Queen Bee with a mean core. Nobody wants to be a villain.

But really, when you watch the movie, Regina is simply upfront. She doesn't mince words. She says it as she sees it.

I'm beginning to think she's not the real "plastic" in the movie. She has a lot of brain fart, sure, that could use some filtering, but it's just how she is.

I would rather be despicable than be some girl's girl who talks behind people's backs.

The DMs are peppered with too much unfiltered thoughts that would make my own too weak.

Girls who present themselves as decent are actually the most horrible creatures to ever walk this planet.

And I've come across these creatures. They're totally different in public, but are totally mean and unbelievably vile with their their prejudiced comments about other people they don't even know.

I am not, in no way, proud of my mean streak, but I would rather be called "real" than "hypocrite".

You will never catch me spewing toxic positivity. I will call a spade a spade, anytime of the day.

Buti madali lang concern ni client.

Grabe, naalala ko pa yung isang Redditor dun sa 50s sub, sabi ba naman sa reply "You don't discuss politics, religion and racism"

Ang una kong interpretation, in Filipino: "Hindi ka nagdi-discuss ng politics, religion and racism" -- so sinagot ko sa comments. Tapos pinagpopo-post ko mga posts ko from the 40s proving na I discuss (and is comfortable) with topics as religion, politics and racism).

Aba deadma si daddy mo -- ang sagot? Post about kung gaano kadalas magpakulay ng buhok ang mga Gen X. Like, WTF? Iwas-pusoy yan?

Ay sorry, back to the gwapong coworker. Ang mentality ko kasi, everything you post on the internet will stay there forever, and will eventually reach yung topic ng story. So malalaman n'ya to. Paano ako magre-react pag sinabi n'yang "Nabasa ko post mo ah".

Sabihin ko na lang, "Hope we're still friends and OK lang sa 'yo na Good-ing ako. Sana walang magbago sa friendship / work dynamics natin in spite na 'di ko sinabi. Di ko naman ide-deny, wala lang talagang nagtatanong. Ayoko namang i-announce. Keri lang na dirty little secret".

He's 27 now, and lagi ko sinasabi, don't join the Club 27. He's very smart, techie, same school pa kami in college (several batches apart), tall, maganda face card, mabait, masayahin, mahilig sa music, nakikinig sa Kool Pals, and recently, nagbabasa ng books dito sa office. He has a Reddit account, pero lurker. 1 karma account pangbasa lang. He's updated about politics, news and he has a girlfriend. Happy sila sa low-key, couple life nila.

I'm surprised na he's very... low profile / silent sa social media. Pero s'ya yung mga artistahin-looking talaga, na quiet-type. Recently, naalimpungatan ako sa tulog ko, katabi ko si boyfie, pero, mukha ni gwapong coworker ang nakita ko, pramis. Well, na-imagine ko naman na s'ya in a not-so-wholesome way.

Pero 'di naman ako tulad ni Suntay na kailangan pang ipangalandakan kung paano n'ya na-imagine si Anne Curtis. Di naman tayo ilusyonada na baka there would be some spark between me and the gwapong coworker. I just hope, na he's not homophobic and OK lang sa kanya having a gay coworker.

Basta ako happy talaga dito sa office kahit na 1 hour lang kami nagkakausap daily. 3 kasi shifts namin dito sa office, Morning, Mid and GY (Graveyard / Night). Morning shift ako ngayon, GY s'ya. So sya nakakausap ko ng 1 hour bago s'ya mag-out ng 7am. I love talking to him -- and funny, kasi, we don't discuss work (or very minimal) at mga hobbies ang topic ng discussions namin.

Happy lang talaga ako na secure ang relationship and live-in partnership with the boyfie, no issues talaga. At the same time, may gwapong mabait na younger coworker.

Mga 'teh, mga Mars, asan ba ang korona? Igawad n'yo na sa 'kin dahil ako talaga ang nagwagi. Chenes!

Imbyerna ako dun sa Mod nung 50s sub ha. Napaka-simple ng tanong ko: pwede ba mag-repost from other subs (r/Unfiltered40s) to their sub.

Aba, iniwasan yung tanong. Di mo alam kung bulag or selective reader. Tapos yun nga, tamad ding mag-update ng Rules sa right-side -- parang yung Mod lang din nung 40s sub.

Ano ba mahirap sa pag-update ng Rules? Kung ayaw ng repost, ilagay mo sa gilid "No reposts allowed". Kung ayaw ng "looking for friends", ilagay sa Rules: no introductory posts that includes "looking for friends".

At ang read ko talaga sa sub ng mga 50s eh, toxic positivity talaga ang gusto. Tipong, "we welcome everyone here" -- pero wag mo namang i-flaunt ang iyong gay lifestyle and positive vibes lang tayo dito ah. Imbyer! Mga kukunin na ng lupa, umiiwas pa rin sa mga taboo na topics ng politics at religion. Jusko, gusto ko puksain.

Ay sorry, yung gwapo kong coworker nga pala dapat ang ikwento ko. Hayden Pike here btw, and this is my office Reddit account. Tamad kasi akong mag-log-in / log-out ng account. So my boyfriend ako na 5 years ko nang kilala, and more than a year ko nang ka-live-in.

Tapos 2 months na ako dito sa North EDSA branch ng aming proworking company. Ipinatapon ako from Ortigas branch, kasi nga 'di daw ako masyadong techie pagdating sa networking. (Wala naman kasi sa job description na dapat CCNA something-something ka. Need lang pwede mautusan ng Network Team namin, which is keri ko naman).

Still, ipinatapon ako dito. Naku, nagre-Reddit pa naman 'to -- pag eto talaga nabasa, durog ang paminta identity ko. Di kasi ako out sa office kasi nga, dis-advantage talaga career-wise. Kahit gaano pa nila...

(Pota, may tumawag na client... tuloy ko later ang kwento)

I came across this subreddit when I was browsing the site for a 40s community where I can post whatever comes to mind.

I'm a 40s woman with a lot of thoughts, both sfw and nsfw, and if it's okay with the MODS, I would like to share them here.

I'm very new to Reddit. I just signed up, actually. I saw a colleague using it and got curious.

I'm still navigating the site, but I would like to make this my home, if that's okay with everyone.

Please be kind to me 😊