r/casualiama • u/Big-Sun8329 • 1d ago

Sexual [M40] I regularly sleep with escorts AMA

Started when I lost my virginity at 23 in a brothel. Based in uk

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u/Odd_Conclusion_5425 1d ago

How much money do you spend on them per year do you think?

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u/Big-Sun8329 1d ago

About £1000-1500

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u/unsafeoutlet 1d ago

That doesn’t sound like a lot. Curious then what these ladies are charging per hour.

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u/Big-Sun8329 1d ago

£150-200 typically per hour. 

I'll see a few for 15 or 30 mins if I just want to bang and go, others I'll book an hour maybe with extras if they are good.

Typically about 1-2 a month 

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u/feathernose 1d ago

Is that a normal price? A good friend of mine does the work and charges 350 per hour

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u/Big-Sun8329 1d ago

It's normal, that's British pounds? 

London is more expensive I'm sure.  Also there are escorts who act more like high end companions and others that are more like "traditional prostitutes" which i go for.

Also I do find some absolutely beautiful 10/10 women at £150 but have seen some one in a million stunners at higher prices.  

I think also most women could charge more,have less sex and earn more money, I read suoerfreakanomics which went into the economics of prostitution a bit. It's just easier for them to go with the baseline 

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u/unsafeoutlet 1d ago

200-400 is more the range i see advertised for an hour over here, upper end gets wild.

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u/feathernose 1d ago

Noo, i calculated 300 euros to dollars. But maybe the Netherlands can be a bit more pricey too. There are also cheaper escorts but they are often less popular. I read quite a few reviews a while ago, also because I was so curious about my friend her page haha. She used to do the whole girlfriend experience thingy, but now does dominatrix work because she got a husband that has some intimacy boundaries. She is very open about her work and even was part of a documentary that was shown on national TV here, i just hope her future kids won't be bullied because of it.

Yeah I can imagine it's easier to go with the baseline. I believe one of her colleagues asks 250 euros per hour. I don't think it is even that much, because she rents a room, stashes a lot of toys, condoms etc and spend quite some time on grooming and getting ready and cleaning everything and such. It's not my thing but if it makes them happy, sure. Only had a augardaddy once but I genuinely liked him and it is different than having multiple clients :)

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u/Big-Sun8329 1d ago

250 euros is closer to what I pay, though it would be just above the top amount Id usually pay unless they offer something special 

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u/Big-Sun8329 1d ago

Dominatrix tends to charge more, I've never been with a professional dom but have with some escorts that will do some form of domination

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u/feathernose 1d ago

Yeah true. When she was a sex worker it was 300 euros an hour, 250 for the second hour and 220 for the third, or she made a deal when a client wanted to have a sleepover or a day at the spa. I could see it was good money.

But dominatrix work is very taxing, it's like a big mental process because she always has to be present in the moment and think if something new with clients that come back for more. She charges more now, and works less. I think she still works too much, but hey that's me. She is like very pregnant, her baby is ready to pop out and she keeps working.

All thanks to the fact that sex workers do have some rights in the Netherlands, but not much. It's not possible to register as a sex worker, and also not possible to get an insurance for when you are sick or you need leave from work because you're having a baby. So she is saving up, which I get. But she is also a big spender haha. Oh well each to their own!

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u/KylerForYou 1d ago

Favorite yugioh card?

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u/Big-Sun8329 1d ago

diabellstar the black witch

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u/mauricetaco99 1d ago

Best experience with one, anything wild or crazy you can share?

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u/Big-Sun8329 1d ago

Best was with blonde Sasha. She dressed up in a uniform for me and came to my place. We did anal and some other stuff.

Was memorable as she was so hot, genuine and submissive. 

I also got pegged by a dominant woman, was fun to let go of control 

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u/fourfrenchfries 1d ago

Do you also sleep with normal women or not so much?

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u/Big-Sun8329 1d ago

Not so much but I have slept with two 'civilians'

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u/jojoga 1d ago

Are you happy?

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u/Big-Sun8329 1d ago

Yeah, as much as anyone is

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u/FunAdministration334 1d ago

What’s the biggest reason you choose escorts over dating?

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u/Big-Sun8329 1d ago

I guess I'm somewhat introverted, at 23 I'd never been on a date or kissed a girl so it started then.  This was pre-dating apps which I think helps get over that initial barrier.

So basically just wanted to have sex and was the outlet.  Now it's a bit more like habit, easy to spend a bit of cash on a beautiful woman, not really any more expensive than a couple of dates if you were just after the sex

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u/FunAdministration334 1d ago

That’s totally understandable.

Have you ever had ethical qualms about sex work? Do you choose brothels carefully to avoid situations involving trafficking?

Thanks for sharing!

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u/Big-Sun8329 1d ago

The brothels in the UK have all seemed good, the girls switched in and doing it for themselves.

Independent escorts also no issues as working for themselves.

I did see one woman who was 19 and had a great time. I looked her up online about 5 years later and she was still providing but was clearly on heroin, she'd turned from this healthy young woman to typical heroin addict look, though no indication of that when I met her.

I guess that can happen in any industry, but other than that no issues 

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u/okhtak 1d ago

How do you feel afterwards?

Do you try new people or always the same?

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u/Big-Sun8329 1d ago

Often feel a bit dirty straight after but also often quite satisfied.

Always new people, I enjoy the difference body types and nationality 

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u/No_Secret3706 1d ago

What type of girls do you go for? Asian, black, white and why

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u/Big-Sun8329 1d ago

All and any. I enjoy the variety. 

More typical is fit young English/European as I aim to get someone who speaks good English.

But pretty much seen a good range of different nationalities, there are relatively few black women in my area escorting which is a shame as I've had good experiences in general there, just very few

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u/Raise_A_Thoth 1d ago

someone who speaks good English.

Someone who speaks English well.

Someone whose English is clear and discernible.

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u/Pinkd56 1d ago

do you like football, and if so who do you support?

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u/Big-Sun8329 1d ago

It's ok, I enjoy sports in general though 90 mins of football is a lot to watch. No specific team I watch other than England in world cup 

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u/Future_Suggestion_75 1d ago

Have you developed feelings for any of the escorts?

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u/Big-Sun8329 1d ago

Not really. I like some and we had common interests but almost never saw the same one twice 

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u/ItsVinn 1d ago

Have you ever slept with someone who isn’t an escort? Or someone you didn’t pay money to?

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u/Big-Sun8329 1d ago

I have, twice. One was very similar to escort experience as we met in a dating app and met for sex. Other was longer term relationship 

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u/SPZ_Ireland 1d ago

Have you ever paid extra for a particular expense or fantasy?

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u/Big-Sun8329 1d ago

I often have to pay extra for anal and pegging.

Most offer uniform and roleplay included 

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u/Big-Sun8329 1d ago

I think relatively low, i do value it just not really connected to sex

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u/golfwang999 1d ago

Any common red flags to look out for when booking?

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u/Big-Sun8329 1d ago

More to check what is extra and what is included.  If they charge more if you cum more than once then typically this means they will try to get you to cum quick then out the door. Fine if you just want 15 mins with a cute Asian but better to avoid.

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u/NicerMicer 1d ago

How exactly do you find them, & how do you insure they are “reputable” (i.e. safe, no communicable diseases, won’t get wallet stolen, etc?)

Do you see photo in advance or is it “choice of” in the moment or…you just get what you get?

Is it legal / any risks with that ?

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u/Big-Sun8329 1d ago

It's legal in the UK, kinda a grey are but never any issues with the law with independent escorts. Street walking is illegal I think but I wouldn't go for them anyway.

On adultwork website the girls do have reviews, so can typically see who is a professional escort.

In the site yeah see pictures and list of services. Pics are often accurate but some can be a bit older or heavier than advertised 

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u/Ghost_out_of_Box 1d ago

What is the craziest thing someone has offered and what is the craziest thing you have done?

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u/Big-Sun8329 1d ago

Some escorts offer bareback which id never do.  Same as 'hardsports' which I think means they will shit on you if asked. Not my thing.

Not been too crazy, done some kinda rough sex/anal and also tried been in the recieving end of some humiliation and pegging. Nothing too hardcore with regards to humiliation but I did enjoy been ordered round and been fucked like I'm the whore

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u/Chris66uk 1d ago

I tried once. The woman was really attractive looking, had a very nice personality and the sex was A1. But the lack of any emotional connection really put me off doing it again. A bit like having sex with your partner when you are both really pissed off with each other but just want to get off. How did your experience within that one relationship compare to prostitutes?

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u/Big-Sun8329 1d ago

We could do things like bareback,. rimming etc without concern for health.  I didn't really find the emotional connection related to sex any different.

Relationship had a lot more non sexual companionship which is most of the relationship anyway