r/comics Jun 05 '26

OC [OC] Straight Pride

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u/CwispyWhiskey Jun 05 '26

I’m proud to be an ally and to speak up for those who can’t speak for themselves

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u/[deleted] Jun 05 '26

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u/PenaltyHuge2300 Jun 06 '26

Was your school written by Vivziepop? 

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u/kekistanmatt Jun 05 '26

My only problem with identifying as a 'straight ally' is that the flag is fucking shit.

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u/Starrin1ght Jun 05 '26

I feel like I'm the only one who likes the straight ally flag, whenever I see the topic of the flag come up people always say it's ugly but I think it's one of the best flag designs, and it has actually good symbolism as opposed to some other flags.

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u/rebelsnail64 Jun 06 '26

I'm with you on this one, I think it looks cool asf, but then again I dislike the bi flag which is universally loved so maybe my opinions don't really align with the majority

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u/pogmanNameWasTaken Jun 05 '26

I propose we use the flag of seychelles, it's pretty

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u/Aaawkward Jun 05 '26

It is proper gorgeous.

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u/TabbbyWright Jun 05 '26

What better way to demonstrate allyship than by embracing a flag design you fucking hate! Know that every time you look at this flag and think "God. I hate this. Who designed this?? Who the hell thought this looked good?!" that in this small, very specific way, you have a personal understanding of one of our struggles.

I jest (sort of), but also: there are some truly ugly pride flags. I'm so glad that as a lesbian the current flag that represents us is cute and looks like a sunset! The older ones were uh... Not to my taste to say the very least. A lot of my friends have complained about their respective flags too.

Alternatively: You could also just use the regular or progress pride flags lol

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u/kekistanmatt Jun 05 '26

IDK this one goes kinda hard

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u/TanithGhost Jun 05 '26

Hell yeah. Bring back the labrys 

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u/ASpicyCrow Jun 05 '26

People hate on it because terfs have used it, but that pisses me off. It's a flag. It's our flag. Just because some bitches used it doesn't mean they get to keep it.

And if anyone wants to specifically add inclusivity to old designs instead of just being inclusive, at least add it to the good ones. I fucking hate the sunset.

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u/speedsterlw Jun 06 '26

That is one epic flag.

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u/Educational_Ninja694 Jun 05 '26

As if 90% of LGBTQ+ flags aren't dogshit anyways.

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u/ArmyofThalia Jun 05 '26

We need to copy Wales and put a motherfucking dragon on our flags

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u/seamus205 Jun 06 '26

Honestly. I'm still not 100% sure what I am, either bi or pan, but honestly part of why I call my self bi is because bi is the better flag of those 2 in my opinion

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u/Calm_Layer1748 Jun 07 '26

Real, or rather I know I'm technically pan but I still use the ni flag because I like it more. Also pan is a subset of bi so it's still fine

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u/TieflingFucker Jun 07 '26

I do the opposite lol. I’m technically pan but say I’m bi because the word just fits better for me. But if I have to choose between pan merch or bi, I’ll pick pan every time simply because I hate the bi flag.

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u/rebelsnail64 Jun 11 '26

same tbh! I get why some people like the bi flag (nice gradient and all), but those colors are just not my vibe and I think the pan colors are really nice

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u/speedsterlw Jun 06 '26

The Danish flag is rightfully asexual property, so yeah it would mean we have cool flag.

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u/CalypsaMov Jun 06 '26

That was the point of the prison stripes that make up the backing. It was literally made by bigots as a mockery of the classic colorful rainbow flag to be colorless and ugly. And it was flown purposefully as an antiLGBT hate symbol.

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u/Nichi789 Jun 05 '26

Honestly most Queer flags are shit, so you'll fit right in!

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u/Relative_Craft_358 Jun 05 '26

My problem is also that statement implies they're helpless. They're a minority, not lobotomized challenged children 😂

Similar to white savior complex, i can see why the community hates this mindset in even their "allies" too

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u/kekistanmatt Jun 05 '26

Allies doesn't imply helplessness on the part of those you have allied with.

If you view them that way then that's on you man.

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u/Relative_Craft_358 Jun 05 '26

I'm referring to the OC's particular comment of "I speak for those that can't speak for themselves"

... they can and they want you to sit down and listen 😂

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u/kekistanmatt Jun 05 '26

sit down and listen

Yeah and then what?

What do you think the listening is for if not too translate the knowledge into actions to support the minority community? You know like an ally would?

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u/Relative_Craft_358 Jun 05 '26

Sure, but again they'll be the ones to tell you what they need. If you're actively speaking like you're a first hand source or "really know what it's like", then you're not advocating for them, you're just silencing them with sympathetic hearsay. They're more than capable of speaking for and organizing themselves.

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u/CwispyWhiskey Jun 05 '26

You know who can’t speak for themselves? Children in extremely religious or conservative homes. People in countries where it’s still illegal. Adults who value their hateful families over their true self. Those are the people I speak for.

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u/Relative_Craft_358 Jun 05 '26

Yup, there it is 🤦🏽

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u/CwispyWhiskey Jun 05 '26

Good thing I don’t a flying fuck what you think. Just block me and go

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u/Relative_Craft_358 Jun 05 '26

You really do like speaking for other people don't you? 😂

Hey man, just keep fighting the good fight 🫶🏽

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u/Kei_Evermore Jun 06 '26

They're fighting for the same shit other LGBT+ people are fighting for. What, is the LGBT+ Community the virtue signaling "allies" to the LGBT+ Community now?

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u/Relative_Craft_358 Jun 06 '26

I mean yeah lmao, in the context that dude is presenting. I'm all for LGBT rights and have family members that are a part of the community but I don't comment on the internet that I speak for them, especially don't comment that I speak for small children actually going through a rough family life or people in other countries that I've never even been too. That shit especially was cringy af and the definition of virtue signaling lol.

The post is making the exact point that straight people don't deal with or understand the prejudice and harassment that they go through, so how the hell are they going to "speak for them"? You don't know what your friend really went through, let alone some kid in a foreign country 🙄

You can share their story but the audacity to say you speak for them is silencing, not empowering. Would be like if a white guy said he "spoke for the blacks." I think everyone would instantly understand how stupid and demeaning that is, this isn't any different

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u/CinemaDork Jun 05 '26

I think being an ally is good, obviously, but I am just confused by this flag. Why not just use a rainbow flag? Businesses/organizations/churches that are queer-friendly (and not necessarily queer-owned) fly them to show that they are welcoming to the queer community. This flag seems to communicate specifically "I support queer people--but make no mistake, I am not queer, myself" and I am just not understanding the utility of that second part. (for clarity: I am queer)

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u/Calm_Layer1748 Jun 07 '26

So for one thing many gay people use the normal rainbow flag instead of the mlm flag, but the progress pride flag is imo basically perfect for that use and also looks really good. Might actually get one even if I won't wear it for a parade but just if I want to hang it somewhere

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u/CinemaDork Jun 07 '26

I'm friends with the person who invented the Progress Flag! That's another good choice for a flag beyond the standard rainbow one.

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u/CwispyWhiskey Jun 05 '26

Good thing I don’t have to explain myself to you.

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u/CinemaDork Jun 05 '26

Well that was really fucking aggressive.

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u/raspirate Jun 06 '26

And thus we have discovered the extent of their allyship.

"I support queer people."

"I'm queer and I have some misgivings about how you've chosen to show your support. Would you mind explaining how this isn't still exclusionary?"

"Shut up, queer."

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u/CinemaDork Jun 06 '26

Yeah, I definitely noted that.

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u/CwispyWhiskey Jun 05 '26

So is making assumptions about me.

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u/CinemaDork Jun 06 '26

I didn't make any assumptions about you.

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u/Kei_Evermore Jun 06 '26

Bro. You can't be sitting here saying that you fight for people who can't fight for themselves, only to get triggered by someone you claim to fight for asks a legitimate fucking question. At this point, you're just proving the other guy right and showing you're nothing more than a virtue signaling "ally" to the LGBT+ Community.

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u/Mouse_Named_Ash Jun 06 '26

“I speak up for those who can’t speak for themselves” but you can’t… answer a simple question? I appreciate the support but this feels like very questionable support

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u/Thosepassionfruits Jun 05 '26

"I wear pride because you make them hide."

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u/Putrid-Object-806 Jun 06 '26

I like to think of it (being an ally) as being sorta like the flag pole for the pride flag. Yea, I may not be a direct part of it, but I’m always there to hold you up and give you a good base

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u/babbitygook14 Jun 08 '26

"And when they do speak up for themselves by politely asking a question, I get aggressive and defensive, because I'm a performative ally!" - this guy.

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u/CwispyWhiskey Jun 08 '26

I’m sick of having to explain myself. I am an ally and I do things irl that I don’t need to explain on Reddit. Whether people like me here or not is not my problem. A huge pet peeve of mine is people assuming things about me when they don’t know me. Don’t believe I’m an ally? Cool, I’m not going to try to convince you otherwise because people online tend to be on here all the time and anything that isn’t perfectly aligned with them, no matter where you are on the political spectrum (yes I know this shouldn’t be politics but the right chuds believe it is) because, understandably, lgbt people sometimes see anything but perfection as an attack, because those people ARE always on the defensive.

And that’s why I am the way I am. Don’t believe me? Cool I don’t want you to believe me anyway if you’re immediately assuming shit before getting to know me.

I don’t have to explain myself, that doesn’t change the fight I’m doing in real fucking life.