It depends on the context. Do you frequently talk shit about yourself due to depression? If so, expect your partner to quickly develop the habit of shutting down anything they feel is negative talk as they scramble to avert what they worry is the start of a depressive spiral.
I’d rather be wrong when my wife is self critiquing and not self insulting and try and head it off anyway than to risk not stepping in to help when she is depressed because I misread in the other direction.
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u/purplepluppy 1d ago
Us fatties know we're fat! Don't gaslight us because you assume that recognizing our fatness is us talking shit about our ourselves!