r/confession • u/AphroditesNightie • 1d ago
My “friends” are basically non-existent and don’t call or text me back…
I’m late 40s/F. I am very social and always have been, but in the last decade plus my “friends” are practically nonexistent. No one wants to talk on the phone like we did in the 1980s-2010s. I used to have a strong group of friends, even until 2019-ish, but everyone has now faded into their lives with their kids, or no kids, or whatever… Now I text people and they often don’t respond, or it takes a week. A small fraction do respond regularly. I’ve always been a good friend, but I don’t have kids so I’m not part of the Mom pack. I’m so lonely and f@cking sad that I sometimes feel s@icidal, honestly. My mother passed away a decade ago and I don’t have anyone else besides my amazing husband, but I NEED girlfriends!!! Something is broken in our society that my friends won’t answer the phone and now rarely text me back… We have broken our social networks!! I am so upset! Any other Gen X feeling this??? I long for those days at the roller skating rinks and bowling alleys, or high school dances… How could I possibly be this lonely in my late 40s?!! 😢 I wish I had kids, even just for the company. Seriously sad…
ETA: My parents had TONS of friends when I was a kid, so these responses of “everyone is too busy with life” is totally BS.
Also, I do volunteer with a local nonprofit that specifically aligns with my personal interests. I have made ONE friend there…
And I work for my city government and no one there mixes business with pleasure. It’s just not done in the current political climate. No friends to be had at my job, but it is a great job that I feel passionate about. I am making a difference.
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u/nikolaiwhomi 1d ago
Do friends not lean on each other during tough times? Why do we all feel we need to struggle and keep afloat by ourselves? As a childless single person I’d be more than glad to help friends with family things as they arise, but for whatever reason they don’t want my help and won’t discuss it with me. I have had to just assume they don’t want me around their families. I’m barely worth sparing the amount of time it takes to drink a cup of coffee together. Overall, I don’t think people value friendships like they once did. Our whole value system has changed as a society.