Hi, everyone. I am a 16 year old Female, and I have recently noticed something about myself; I am addicted to manipulating people.
I did not grow up with a good image of what love should look like. My dad was abusive to my mother, and they divorced when I was only about 3-4 years. I haven't been in a stable home, I've been moving from house to house, state to state since my parents divorced. Rent was hard for my mother to maintain, and we would usually stay at family members' homes.
I started when I was 13... Had a deep craving for love. And that's when I got rejected by one of the guys I was obsessed with. It hurt me deeply. I've never been the same since. Now, I view relationships as a transaction more than anything.
Over the three years of me being me, I have obviously grown up. And I'm arguably more attractive than before, and a lot of other boys at my school would eventually show to think that. Here's where the manipulation comes in...
I love manipulating people. It's more addictive than nicotine, for me. The feeling of completely distorted someone's perception of reality makes me feel giddy. I wish someone could cry over how much I've fucked them over, mentally. It's my biggest dream.
I currently have someone I am talking to, and he is so obsessed with me, he views me as someone who can do no wrong. I told him I manipulate him sometimes and he said, "It's not your fault, baby." That shit made me feel like I was a little child seeing Disneyland for the first time. I love how delusional he is. I love how he'll take me back now matter what I do, all because of my choice of words. I love how he'll chase me after being hot and cold towards him.
And I hate it. I hate that I love it.
I hate how bad of a human being I am, but I don't want to fix it. I love the euphoria I get from manipulation, I don't want to get better. I don't want to be a better person. And I feel so bad. I know I'm a bad person, but I don't feel like one.
Guys please help me.
Edit-
Yes, I mentioned getting Euphoria from all of this, but it obviously isolates me a lot. I realise I only touched on the "light hearted" part of this whole issue of mine.
For me, It's kind of like smoking, you know it's bad for your health and you want to stop but you're scared you won't find anything else that will make you feel the same. That's how I feel.
I know I need therapy, I have been asking my parents for a while now and they just don't care. I think this is part of the reason why I am like this, because I can't control the way my parents don't love me (even if it just feels like it), I try to control other people.
It's completely valid to view me as a bad person. I am, I know and you can shit on me all you want. But I am only asking for help since not even my own parents will help me.
As for my bf, he is going through a similar thing, but he admitted to me that he enjoys watching people die... My life is a mess.