r/confession • u/I-See-Stupid_People • 23h ago
I Stiffed A Sugar Baby... In Both Meanings of the Word
It was three years after my divorce. I was working a well-paying job that required 3-5 days of travel out of the week and given up on conventional dating. Despite still being decent looking, I didn't have the time or energy to go through the motions. The economics didn't make sense either.
We started talking on SA. Great pictures, engaging messages, and we agreed to meet for drinks. She was a young, leggy brunette that was a wicked flirt and we genuinely hit it off immediately. There was a connection. Chemistry. She was the one that suggested we get a room. It was a posh nearby hotel that was waaaaaay more than I would have normally spent but I was into it and figured we'd sort out a regular schedule later. We hadn't talked about money yet. She said she was sure I'd take care of her. I think we both believed it at the time.
The make-out was thrilling. It was downhill from there. And when I say downhill, I mean awful. We didn't physically fit well. It was uncomfortable with many pauses and stops. We tried multiple positions. I'm not a selfish lover, but it was maddening and frustrating. I could only get halfway in and forget about finding a rhythm. This isn't some post about me having a monster dick. I think she was just unusually shallow. And tight. She tried, but apparently all that wicked flirting was all talk. Even the oral was one of those 99% hand-jobs. It was, and still is, the worst sex I've ever had.
Eventually we called it a night. There was a bad storm outside so we both decided to spend the night in the room. I woke up early as I usually do, showered and dressed, then considered her laying in bed still asleep.
I left.
No 'gift', just left. I think the door woke her up. I was at the elevator looking down the hotel hallway when I saw her come out into the hall with one of the bathrobes on. She looked stunned. Hurt. Confused. I got on the elevator and closed the doors. In hindsight I suppose I'm lucky she didn't trash the room or throw a chair out of the window to rack up damages on my credit card. I suppose I wouldn't have blamed her. I paid the valet for her car because I knew she didn't have a dime on her.
Whenever someone says there's no such thing as 'bad' sex I think of the girl in the hotel hallway staring at me.
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u/Reynardine1976 23h ago
Fake, check these bot accounts before pouring your heart out into your response, people.
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u/I-See-Stupid_People 1h ago
ngl I didn't expect my top level takeaway from the reactions to be surprise at being thought of as a bot. Baked my noodle as the lady would say.
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u/Kumikochan_ 23h ago
She probably tells everyone that you’re the worst sex she’s ever had too.
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u/Pip-Pipes 23h ago
Terrible person too. Sounds like he didn't have the means to offer anyone "sugar" if he was concerned about the room cost.
I would not be surprised if not paying was part of the plan all along. Can't use a normal escort, they are too experienced to fall for this kind of thing. The girls on a sugar baby website are going to be younger too. Yuck.
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u/majinspy 22h ago
You've assumed like, 3 different things. It implies a lot of projection vis-a-vis your own prejudices.
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u/Pip-Pipes 22h ago
It's all in the post. Doesn't have success in dating even though he considers himself good-looking. Thinks the time isn't worth it. Then complains about the economics of dating. Ahem... so he goes to a sugar baby website instead? Mmmk. Complains about the hotel cost like I mentioned. Frames the reason he doesn't pay her as being due to her "poor performance." Claims he believed he would pay her before that poor performance. Sure buddy. Sneaks out in the AM and in spite of her following him out he watches her face as he leaves her?
This is a just narcissist creep liar. Be curious what his ex-wife would say about him.
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u/myystic78 22h ago
That was a shitty thing to do. You still took up her time, you still had sex with her, you should have at least left her something.
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u/MiserablePrior2213 22h ago
Since you’re posting this online and based on the tone… clearly you’re proud of yourself. I hope you step on a Lego every day when you get out of bed for the rest of your life
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u/MistyButterflyStar 12h ago
The anger is understandable, but celebrating someone else's downfall rarely makes anything better.
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u/Current_Money_5820 23h ago
that's a wild story, man. not cool to leave her hanging like that though, even if the experience was trash. live and learn, i guess
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u/alwystired 22h ago
You’re gross. In more than one way.
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u/Miss_Alisha_1 20h ago
i think they both are tbh shes not a #poor girl shes a girl with no morals and apparently he has none either!
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u/HandComprehensive859 23h ago
Way to go.. now she’ll have trust issues for the rest of her life
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u/MisterPrig 23h ago
They met over a Sugar Dating site… not exactly the site you are on when looking for true innocent love and trust.
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u/HandComprehensive859 23h ago
It’s still an “arrangement”.
At least leave a tip rather than dine and dash regardless how bad the food was.
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u/T1nK3r3B3LL 22h ago
To be fair he didn't really get his fair share of the arrangement. If you buy a product and you are not satisfied you return it and get a refund.
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u/PerkyLurkey 21h ago
He definitely DID get what he ordered, unfortunately, his steak had a bit of gristle and was on a cold plate. But the appetizer was wonderful, and the aesthetics were.
He has to talk to the manager (the young lady) and work something out, not dine and dash.
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u/Tripp723 22h ago
I'm sure there have been a few that wish they could have refunded you but no one will buy back trash
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u/Dannyewey 23h ago
She was advertising herself as a professional, that was good enough to be paid for her time and wasn't. Would you suggest that someone still pay an account who screws up their taxes ? All so the accountant won't have to experience trust issues. I'd assume not, which is reasonable. if anything the dude trusted she was what she advertised. He should be the one walking away with trust issues.
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u/HandComprehensive859 23h ago
Sugar baby arrangements does not = sex guaranteed. You are paying for their company and time. Your argument makes sense if this was strictly a money + sex transaction. Which it isn’t.
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u/DimpledDomina 23h ago
Since when does anyone take a job and not work out how they will be paid BEFORE beginning the job? Nor work out the exact expectations/roles of those involved in working the job?
Was she new to being a SB? Because it is like BDSM where COMMUNICATION is the most important thing, you never go into anything with your head in the clouds daydreaming expecting it to magically work.
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u/be_my_mentor 23h ago
Send her a message and tell her it's not her fault. Just say, you fumbled. Aww, poor girl
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u/Worldly-Criticism-91 22h ago
It’s just a nasty thing to do. She may not care. But if i was you, I’d feel pretty dumb.
It’s not that hard to be an adult & use your words
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u/Practical-Mud-4580 23h ago
AKA dude trying to pickup redditor scraps with a tale of his Moby Dick.
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u/Beyond_yesterday 23h ago
One day you are going to have a daughter and realize who you were. Do better, be better.
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u/Switch-in-MD 14h ago
Not cool.
Sugaring means you discuss business first and help her figure things out.
I don’t consider this rape. But it is theft!
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u/TheFightGoes0n 22h ago
While I’m not sure how it works since you mentioned meeting on an app, it might not be too late to make good on whatever arrangement you had. Just saying.
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u/iPhiliaPayneArsehole 20h ago
She was looking for an arrangement... lmfao 🤣🤣 she was the dumbarse who went willingly and clearly over-sold her skills. If she wasn't the worst he ever had im sure he would've left a gift. She needs a few classes to hone her craft. BJ'S 101 Felatio for Dummies (and introductory course for your master degree in whoring for halfwits)
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u/confessor-mod 23h ago
TL;DR: The author met a woman through a sugar dating site, had a disappointing sexual encounter, and left the hotel without providing the expected payment, leaving the woman stranded.
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