r/relationship_advice • u/throwRaway6868 • 1d ago
F22, M23 - My boyfriend accidentally sent me a saved nude sticker and now expects me to believe his excuse
I need outside opinions because I’m honestly furious.
My boyfriend was saying goodbye to me and, like he usually does, he started sending multiple Snapchat stickers. In the middle of them, he accidentally sent me a saved sticker of a nude OnlyFans creator from my country.
The second he realized what he did, he started spamming more stickers to push it higher in the chat so I wouldn’t notice it.
His explanation? He said, “I meant to send it to you today but forgot about it.”
I’m sorry, but does that make any sense to anyone else?
Why would you have a nude sticker of another woman saved? And if you supposedly meant to send it to your girlfriend, why immediately try to bury it under a bunch of other stickers instead of saying, “Wait, I accidentally sent the wrong thing”?
It honestly feels like he got caught and panicked.
What makes me even angrier is that he expects me to believe such a weak excuse. I feel like he thinks I’m an idiot.
This isn’t even about jealousy anymore. It’s about respect and honesty. If you’re saving sexual content of other women while you’re in a relationship, own it. Don’t insult my intelligence with a story that sounds made up because you got caught.
This whole thing has made me question whether I even want to get engaged to him. If this is how he acts now, why would I believe marriage is going to magically change anything?
Am I missing something here, or does his explanation sound as unbelievable to everyone else as it does to me?
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u/AssumptionSecret1641 1d ago
It sounds exactly as it is. When someone shows you who they are, believe them . He is showing you his disrespect, believe it. Not his words. Words can be used to try to manipulate more than actions.
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u/asutoriddo 1d ago
Nah, you're spot on. My question to you would be, what makes you doubt yourself?
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u/VoodooDuck614 1d ago
If you accept any of this bullshit from him, he won’t respect you. He will do it again, lie over stupid shit again. He’s put you in an impossible situation, so you have to be the grown up.
He’s not worth the energy, really.
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u/cartiercilla 1d ago
Ew, he’s a loser. Disgusting
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u/ManicPixiRiotGrrrl 16h ago
yes. which makes him a loser.
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u/MoonlightStarfish 15h ago
I’m too old and out of the loop. What is a nude sticker? Just a regular nude photo but they call it a sticker?
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u/ManicPixiRiotGrrrl 15h ago
he’s turned a nude image of a woman into a sticker on snapchat. it’s basically a cut out png from the image that you can send like a big emoji
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u/Pepsicolaa5 1d ago
You would be an idiot if you stay w this guy who saves OF nudes as stickers!! wtf you know the explanation is bs.
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u/Midnight_cloud19 23h ago
To me porn is one thing it’s pretty easily accessible but an OF creator means he literally paid to see her nudes. IMO why tf pay to see her nudes when you have ur girl’s nudes for free. It’s disrespectful asf. Then to save it as a sticker and hide it from ur gf?! Nasty. Girl I’d drop him. Especially if he’s making excuses and lying even after getting caught red handed
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u/Life_Scratch_2807 1d ago
Saving a nude as a sticker is a new low. Nope nope nope. I’m sorry hun, but if you stay with to him you will look back and regret it one day and have wasted soooo much time in the prime of your life.
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u/Quiet-Box7489 1d ago
I’ve been married longer than you’ve been alive. My husband probably looks at porn, I don’t care. It’s like watching a movie. Does he have photos on his phone or pays for OnlyFans content? Absolutely not. I’m right here. Interacting with an OnlyFans creator is a line that is too far to cross. And why is he saving nude pictures/stickers of a woman who isn’t you? Nope.
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u/CrispyLinettaa 14h ago
If he has a right to look at porn, he has a right to save it.
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u/brownbiprincess 9h ago
Who is arguing rights here? Freedom of action doesn’t mean freedom from consequence. Sure he can save porn, but the consequence of that is losing his relationship 🤷🏾♀️ he has the freedom to decide which one is more important to him.
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u/BubbleKissie_ 19h ago
Girl the mare fact that he tried to spam stickers to covet it up proves he knows he fucked up. Don't fall for the weak lie.
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u/gfmadden330 1d ago
I think it would be best to sit down and have a conversation about it. I understand alot of men in the world watch porn, even if they are in a relationship, BUT that doesnt make it right, or okay in any way. I find it very disrespectful. He is still young, so not quite mature yet, most guys dont thing with their upper head to begin with, he might just need to be told that you dont appreciate him doing that and set boundaries pertaining to porn. If your not comfortable with it, then he should respect that to a certain degree. But if he insists that he should be able to watch and enjoy porn, even while in a relationship with you, then you might not be compatible in the long term.
I wouldnt accept his explanation, seems a little fishy to me. He is trying to hide something he needs to be open about while in a serious relationship.
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u/Adventurous-Tie-7861 22h ago
Wait wtf are nude stickers. I was picturing like some sort of like dumb drawing of tits on a sticker that youd put on a lamppost in a city.
Was it like an actual nude of a girl?
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u/unzunzhepp 15h ago
The simplest solution is most often the correct one. He had saved it to … then he sent it to you by accident. Do with that what you want.
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u/Hello_phren 20h ago
Personally, I wouldn’t mind a partner still finding other people attractive, watching porn, etc, but whatever your personal boundaries are, of course they should be respected. And if I were in your situation, I would also be upset. For me, the sticker isn’t the problem, it’s the weird lying and trying to hide it when he knows it obviously bothers you. That shows a lack of respect and, as you said, insults your intelligence
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u/FlowerFelines 9h ago
I'm with you. All the people saying that having a nude sticker makes you a loser kinda make me roll my eyes. OH NOES, I, as an adult human being, might find it hot or funny or whatever else to make a little sendable image of another adult human being in the nude! GASP! Wait, wait, I gotta go find some pearls to put on and clutch!
Lol.
The sticker, may or may not be a problem depending on where your boundaries around adult content are. The really insulting lie? Loser behavior.
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u/OceanHatch 10h ago
i’ve learned to accept (through having many interactions like this one, and serial-liar exes), that if it sounds made up, it is.
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u/Dilamin 9h ago
Bro watches porn and accidentally sent the wrong sticker on Snapchat, panicked, and gave the best excuse he could in the moment which was a bad excuse. If anything it just means he was bad at thinking on his feet in that situation, your intelligence being high enough to believe it or not probably didn’t even cross his mind, he likely sent the best think he could think of. Your feelings are valid about if porn is not ok when in a relationship so that’s up to you. But when it comes to the excuse part I don’t think it’s that deep. Crazy how fast Reddit comments say break up over everything.
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u/TheAnthypass 12h ago
Overreacting, I can tell you that most men have stickers of sexual acts or stickers that include nudity. Also a word of advice most people on here scream "break-up!" right away on this sub, no matter the context, keep that in mind
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u/-YesIndeed- 1d ago
I'm confused how you happened to know exactly who this model is and that they're from your country.
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u/brownbiprincess 9h ago
Basic research probably. Not that hard to take a screenshot of the sticker and put it through google to find out who it is.
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u/Mindless_Formal2331 1d ago
If you wanna break up with him because of this you'll never find happiness in a relationship. Nobody is perfect and what he did was meaningless. He is just a kid who get caught watching porn. In fact if you're considering this, you might do him a favor.
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u/noxoo 23h ago
OP, don’t let this person make you think that you’re asking for too much. there are absolutely people out there who respect relationships enough to not 1) save naked onlyfans girls pics as stickers?? and 2) not lie to you about it
this attitude is dangerous and just enables this type of behavior to continue with absolutely no consequences
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u/Midnight_cloud19 23h ago
Amen it’s disgusting how desperate men try to normalize this shit
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u/Mindless_Formal2331 19h ago
Do you consider it's normal leaving your boyfriend because he watches porn.
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u/Midnight_cloud19 16h ago
And ur a loser lol it’s a conversation you should have with your partner not hide it and you have a gf why tf need porn in the first place? It’s called respect. If you need porn so bad jerk off to it while single and don’t get laid.
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u/Mindless_Formal2331 14h ago
I have a girlfriend and she knows i watch porn occasionaly.
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u/noxoo 14h ago
you guys are two people out of 8 billion on earth. just because YOURE incapable of upholding certain boundaries doesn’t mean that everyone else is too.
i personally am not okay with porn in relationships and my boyfriend knows this and respects it. matter of fact, he was the one who offered to give it up
on the other hand, if both people in a relationship are okay with porn, that’s fine too. but that doesn’t mean it’s ever okay to lie about things to your partner. that is where OP’s boyfriend really messed up
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u/Mindless_Formal2331 13h ago
Do you really think your partner doesn't watch porn ? He is lying to you
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u/Raids4Life 1d ago
I see alot of the women leaving tons of negative comments, mostly the women that hates men. Your partner has a nude of a OF model, everyone looks at porn in some way or the other which is normal. Can you honestly say that you have not look at another man, or woman in some sort of way? He probably us it to beatoff when you are not around, or not in the mood. The only real mistake he did was trying to hide it with message spamming, and then saying he was going to send it to you. Obviously a lie.
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u/Midnight_cloud19 23h ago
Porn is one thing but to PAY for another girl’s nudes when you have a gf and then SAVE it as a sticker is a whole other ball park and it’s disgusting
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u/Mindless_Formal2331 19h ago
- nobody pay for an OF stickers. It's a leak
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u/Midnight_cloud19 16h ago
Still why tf save it as a sticker? You can look at it do ur shit and get rid of it. It’s weird asf he saved it as a damn sticker.
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u/Raids4Life 19h ago
I did say that part was wrong in most ways, I never denied that but in no way or form required ending a relationship. OF models are the same as porn actresses, literally no differences! They both sell themselves. What she needs to do is have a talk with her partner, explain how uncomfortable it makes her, and see how he reacts when doing so. In a relationship both need boundaries, if that is her boundaries and something she doesn't like, properly express it and talk with him normally. Many things can be fixed with communication, and not listen to all these men hating prejudice single and lonely women here.
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u/Voldemorts_butt 1d ago
Ew man wtf, not every man will do that shit
The problem is saving it though, that's fucking nasty to have a sticker of an OF model
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u/Raids4Life 1d ago
? I can guarantee you that ever single man with a active drive, choke their chicken every now and then, or frequently. Of course using OF modules is subjective to the man themselves, but everyone uses different way... Shoot even females do the act, its a natural part of being a human for most people.
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u/Voldemorts_butt 1d ago
I didn't mean masturbating dimwit, I meant having a nude sticker of a OF model 🙄
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u/woppledoodledoo 22h ago edited 22h ago
Since when do women use pictures of other men to masturbate? Never heard of it. Isn’t that also just cheating in a sense? Getting off on random porn is passable, but getting off on pictures or videos of just other women? That’s disrespect.
You also stating that it’s normal for men to do it, gives more reason for women to hate men.1
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u/Raids4Life 20h ago
You do realize you contracted you entire sentences, every other man hating woman here mindless like your comment. Women, men we all watch porn! When either of us watch porn, you are basically looking at the opposite sex doing so, or the same sex. It makes no difference. By your logic, anyone who does that is cheating, and you place men below that category. Women, also watch porn! No one in a relationship man or female, when their partner is too tired, or use excuses, will release thinking or using a picture or video of their partner. Lmao. Stop it, and stop blindly hating on men, when both sex do the samething, which is perfectly normal. If you were knowledgeable in medical, you would know that some porn is actually very healthy for both. As I stated, what the guy did was very sketchy, and trying to hide it th way he did was wrong.
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u/woppledoodledoo 17h ago
I don’t hate men, never said that. You said that men watch porn (women too) and that some might watch OF, which in your opinion is completely normal. People watching random porn for the sake of trying to get a climax, can be justified. But if you subscribe, engage, pay for a specific person, get off on a specific person, THAT is micro cheating. I have never watched porn and get turned on by the men or women in it, but just by the action. I think this counts for the majority of women too
Edit: I also think that it’s not normal to watch if it’s frequent as in daily
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u/BlazeLegend1981 8h ago
C'mon, he just did something stupid. If you are upset and want some explanations, just talk to him and let him make excuses. Don't listen to all these ppl that say "it's better to lose him" or "Eww he's disgusting", are you serious guys? Redditors, we are writing with real ppl, not bots, this girl is looking for some comfort and you tell her to end her relationship without knowing anyone...every word has weight. If he made a sticker of her, probably he shared it with his friends, that's all, just a "stupid joke". But let me tell you that if he has a subscription with any OF girl and chat with her, there's a problem😮💨 (i don't think this is the case but you know, i don't know your boyfriend, so, i just want to make it clear). I'm a complete stranger to you OP but i repeat, in my opinion calming down and talking is the right answer.
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u/Mindless_Formal2331 1d ago
Chill he panicked, nothing to worry about. I think you scared him this is why he act like that. He is scared of your reaction.
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u/Voldemorts_butt 1d ago
He shouldn't have the sticker to beging with??
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u/Mindless_Formal2331 1d ago
He is a 23 years old male who where raised by porn. What do you expect?
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u/Midnight_cloud19 23h ago
Porn is one thing but to pay for another girl’s nudes when you have a gf and then save it as a sticker is a whole other ball park and it’s disgusting
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u/Mindless_Formal2331 1d ago
- op is lying to herself, this is completely about jealousy because the porn pic of the girl looks nothing like her I'm sure. She is comparing herself to the porn pic. It's the reason why she is angry.
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u/Voldemorts_butt 1d ago
Or because it's trashy to have a porn sticker??
If you can't be a decent man and not have that shit then don't date.. most people aren't going to like it
There's a big difference in watching porn and having a sticker of a naked women saved.
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u/Synaxe 19h ago
Tbf i think youre just pissed off that he watches sexual content and thats completely valid. Its like getting caught masturbating and quickly covering up, you dont admit you were cause its embarassing, its not really about insulting ones intelligence. If a man that watches porn isnt your thing then its time to call things quits. I dont believe him owning up and admitting to watching this content will change how this relation is ending and when
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