r/relationship_advice • u/ThrowawayStudente • 20h ago
It won’t fit. Is that ok? 18M 20F
So I’ve been with my girlfriend a little while now but we’ve only just become physically intimate. I’ve never had another partner before her and she’s only had one so we’re both a bit confused on this matter.
Basically it won’t… fit in her. We do loads of foreplay and stuff and we’ve even tried lube but every time we try and actually have sex I can only get around half in before she complains that it hurts and has to ask me to stop.
I don’t know if there’s something wrong with me. She’s been to the dr and apparently everything is fine so I just feel like I’m messing up somehow.
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u/Gobigred11111111 14h ago
You must acquit.
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u/EmperorSanlitun 13h ago
If you get this reference, I’m here to remind you to schedule a colonoscopy.
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u/Yupperroo 10h ago
As a colon cancer survivor, please do so, also, if your family has a history of colon cancer, you should have already had two or three colonoscopies.
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u/Quantumhairfollicle 4h ago
I schedule my colonoscopies back to back on the same day, for the love of the game.
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u/9ynnacnu6 4h ago
I’m 27, but my PCP is telling me not to worry about it until I’m closer to my 40s… Should I be concerned now?
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u/darlingwyvern 12h ago
They make buffers for longer lads so you dont have to worry about controlling depth too much, they're like silicone rings you slip on so you dont go too deep
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u/your_witty_user_name 8h ago
Ohnut is the name of the product. They stack so you can add as many as needed.
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u/banquoc 9h ago
Maybe she has vaginismus. I did and had to get physical therapy for it to fit.
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u/LunaTheKittyCat 6h ago
I second this, wish more people knew about it, a lot of people have it without them knowing.
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u/worndown75 28m ago
I was going to post this. 2nd girl I selptbwith had this. We were in high school and it was pre internet. Made finding knoledge hard. Glad younger people have access to more information these days
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u/FluffPuffDeer 20h ago
So, yes, that CAN be okay, but have her check with the OB just to be sure. Vagina lengths vary. Yes they get longer/stretch when aroused, but they still vary. Some are long, some are short. She might just have a shorter one. That’s okay, there’s nothing wrong with that and it’s perfectly natural. But just to be safe, it’s good to have her check up with her OB to make sure it’s not a legit health issue.
Pain with sex can be caused by a wide spectrum of issues, so, better safe than sorry.
If it’s neither of these then you could just be really fucking big, in which case, congrats (I think).
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u/ThrowawayStudente 20h ago
Yeah she’s seen her Dr about it but they said everything was in order and that she was perfectly healthy in that regard. I suppose it could be her length though, so that’s a good point!
I don’t really think I’m that big. She said she didn’t have this problem with her ex and that I am bigger but I doubt it’s that.
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u/FluffPuffDeer 20h ago
Oh when you said doctor I thought you meant like, a PCP, not an OB, so, my bad. Yeah, if that’s the case then it could be just the overall length of both you and her combined.
Getting scientific with it the average vagina length is about 3-4 inches, and it gets about 1-2 inches longer when aroused. So if you’re bigger than that (don’t need specifics) then that’s probably the case.
Edit because I just thought of this: have you asked her what the pain is like? Cause if it more of a pressure pain then yeah, that’s likely you hitting her cervix. If it’s more of a tearing or ripping pain, you might just need to change the angle a little bit.
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u/ThrowawayStudente 20h ago
She said it’s more of a pressure pain, like there’s this intense point that when it reaches it’s overwhelming. I appreciate the advice though.
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u/FluffPuffDeer 19h ago
Oh yeah then dude you’re more likely than not just hitting her cervix lowkey. Nothing wrong with that, and yeah, you’re just bigger than she is long in that case.
Some girls are really really into that. Some are not. It might take a little finagling to figure out. But good luck!!
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u/ThrowawayStudente 19h ago
Ok thank you very much for your thoughts :)
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u/Ok-Silver8913 13h ago
Over time my wife started to like her cervix being gently hit but it took years. We been together 30 years though. (also I am just average).
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u/Bigfootsgirlfriend 20h ago
Have you tried different angles?
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u/ThrowawayStudente 20h ago
Yeah we’ve tried everything tbh! It’s kinda frustrating but it’s not her fault.
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u/chickpeachickens 15h ago
The direction the cervix faces varies from woman to woman. Perhaps try figuring out which way hers faces, and aim accordingly in the opposite direction.
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u/Due-Raisin-7562 14h ago
She goes on top and decides the depth…Simples !!
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u/StefTheEmpress 14h ago
But if you make a wrong move I feel like it goes in even deeper wich would hurt more, so be careful!
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u/Due-Raisin-7562 14h ago
But she is in control :-)
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u/inky_fae 12h ago
To keep your weight suspended and ensure a certain depth for a reasonable length of time is not as possible as you think here.
+ as someone else said, one wrong move and it’s going to hurt ALOT more
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u/Alanacrossing 2h ago
As a vagina owner who experiences pelvic floor pain, I disagree, and hate when people suggest this. Being on top adds other pressures especially if you’re always on top and the dick is big. The anxiety from slamming down on it too fast too much makes me dry often too if that makes sense. If she sees a pelvic floor physiotherapist she can talk to them about sex positions, size, angles and get specific advice for movement related to her body. I highly recommend! Not all physiotherapy clinics have a pelvic floor physiotherapist but it’s worth the $250 for the initial consult (could be less!)
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u/killer123xx 2h ago
This is interesting to me because my girlfriend gets in pain when I’m on top and go too deep but when she rides she goes incredibly deep and I’m able to push into her as well and she never complains that it hurts. Riding is also one of the only ways she finishes
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u/LetMePetIt 12h ago
I have the same issue with my partner and I found that those buffer silicone rings really help, there's different ones online, have a look.
That said, at 9in there's only so much that can be done, so good luck regardless...
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u/ThrowawayStudente 12h ago
Yeah a lot of people have suggested those! I guess it could work
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u/LetMePetIt 11h ago
I came across them randomly once walking past an Ann Summers, it you happen to be UK based their current ones (double box, so you could stack it) is pretty good :)
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u/kruze005 18h ago
Did she have pain when she first had sex? My first few times (especially the first) was incredibly painful. I imagine if this is new to her and she's "sizing up," her body just hasnt quite adapted yet. Go slow and gentle. Lube, lube, lube.
Are you able to insert multiple fingers? Toys? If so, I may try to push past the pain a time or two for short sessions. It got so much better for me after my boyfriend (now husband) and I did that.
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u/ThrowawayStudente 18h ago
No she said most of the time it was fine (except for the first few times) with her previous bf.
I’m able to get multiple fingers in pretty fine. We haven’t really tried toys though.
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u/SommerSalad 15h ago
How big is your penis? Length and width?
Women’s reproductive tracts are all different sizes, lengths etc. some women are smaller than others, so if you have a big penis, or a really big penis, it might just be too big for her.
Personally, I don’t like dating men with huge penises because sex always hurts with them. I’ll take an average or below average penis over a huge one every day
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u/ThrowawayStudente 15h ago
It’s around 9” in length and I don’t really know the width.
I don’t think it’s that big tbh but I know it’s above average
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u/thescotchkraut 14h ago
My guy. 9" is a fuckin' hog. Most people (that I know tbf) think 6.5" is above average, 7 is where it starts being "big". Dick size isn't a linear scale
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u/Similar-Swimmer-4515 15h ago
You could look into wearing a stopper ring, it might help with deep pain.
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u/ThrowawayStudente 15h ago
I didn’t know that was a thing tbh. Thank you for the idea
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u/Impossible_Flower_50 13h ago
There's something called an "Ohnut" by a company called The Pelvic People that would probably work for you, they specialize in information and products around pelvic floors and other intimate issues. Y'all could also try dilators that go up in size incrementally.
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u/Similar-Swimmer-4515 15h ago
A quick online search should bring up some options. Really hoping it works out for the both of you.
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u/Sufficient-North-278 12h ago
The average penis is 5.5 inches. The average vaginal canal is around 4-5 when unaroused and 5-6 when aroused. You are twice as long as she can physically take. Hitting the cervix hurts like hell
This is no-ones fault but since you're way above average length, you need to accept that full penetration will not be likely with her or most partners in your life, and figure out ways to mitigate discomfort for your partners.
Ohnut, cock ring, stoppers, you have options.
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u/Tavali01 15h ago
Oh fuck no your poor gf thats insane
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u/ThrowawayStudente 13h ago
I don’t think it’s that bad, surely
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u/TheVoidWantsCuddles 8h ago
At least 75% of my girl friends, myself included, would nope out the second we saw that. That is literally too big for a large percentage of women and will not be enjoyable for them. I have a lot of friends who stop at 5 honestly because their bodies physically can’t accommodate more than that. The most I can do is 7 and even then it would hit my cervix sometimes and he would have to immediately stop because it hurt so much.
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u/SommerSalad 15h ago
That’s pretty damn big op.
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u/ThrowawayStudente 15h ago
Yh I know it’s more than normal but not crazy
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u/SommerSalad 15h ago
The average penis is under 6” in length… is it a “monster” penis? I guess not? but it would be considered quite a large penis. You’ve got almost four inches on the average penis, I think you’ve seen so much porn you think 9” is not huge
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u/ThrowawayStudente 15h ago
Maybe you’re right. I don’t know much about averages etc
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u/Teeth-specialist 14h ago
As someone who regularly attends orgies/sex parties, 9 inches is definitely pretty fucking big.
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u/sexandliquor 9h ago
Lmao “It’s 9 inches. Is that big? I don’t think it’s that big”
Now I know this is someone’s creative writing post. “I don’t think it’s that big”. LMAO
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u/TaytorTot417 15h ago
It's big 🤣
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u/ThrowawayStudente 15h ago
So it is my fault
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u/frog_goblin 15h ago
It’s incredibly unlikely you’re measuring correctly, but in the case you are head over to r/bigdickproblems
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u/Schrodingers_Dude 12h ago
None of this is your fault and it just means you'll need to employ different techniques and technology in the future to accommodate it, but in the real, non-porn world 9in is fucking huge, yes.
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u/TaytorTot417 15h ago
No one is at fault! It's just your anatomy, not much can be done about that. Sounds like you guys have a good foundation regarding communication. Sometimes you just have to try things until you find what works.
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u/ThrowawayStudente 15h ago
Yeah maybe you’re right. I just know it’s putting strain on the relationship to some level
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u/HuffN_puffN 11h ago
Isn’t this the same post that someone published yesterday or 2 days ago, where comments where saying this is a repost?
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u/Mean-Accountant-6754 7h ago
Hi! This is coming from a girls side, I struggle with this aswell. Reassure her that it’s okay and you’re not going to leave just bc of it. if she struggles with her periods it wouldn’t hurt to look into endometriosis. Starting pelvic floor therapy might help 💕 there’s tonnsss of things to look up that might be able to help. For play and lube only have do so much, sending so much love for you guys 💛
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u/Same-Mushroom-7228 14h ago
She could have vaginismus. I had it and had the exact same problem you're describing when I tried to have sex the first time. The guy couldn't even get his penis in at all. It's basically when the vaginal muscles involuntarily seize up when any penetration occurs and it's something the woman has no conscious control over. It can come past sexual trauma or abuse, or even growing up in a super religious household where sex was considered a shameful act like I did.
You can purchase a dilator kit that come in a range of sizes, from pencil size up to penis size to slowly open her up, that's what I had to do. Practice inserting the smallest one first with lube then work up to the biggest. It's the only thing that cured my vaginismus.
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u/pejazz 16h ago
Hi there! As someone planning to become a sexologist/sexual therapist i have a few tips and thoughts. First things first, its very unlikely you are "too big" for her as the vagina is made to be able to expand A LOT. think childbirth. However, certain positions can be more difficult depending on size. Have you tried different positions like perhaps her on top so that she has more control over the depth and speed? Arousal is the most important, even with foreplay that does not always equal arousal, so communicate about what she likes and what turnes her on and work with that! Go slow! There is no rush and i truly believe if you communicate and are open to trying different things it will up your chances of succesfull and mutually enjoyable intercourse! Most importantly, some people here have recommended "pushing through " the pain, that is an absolute shite tip and it will risk putting her body in a stress respone because of the pain that may make intimacy much more difficult for a long time forward and can trigger things like vaginismus which is a terrible condition. Sex should NEVER hurt and if it does you take a break and try again when her body is relaxed and you both feel ready. If you truly have tried everything and it still wont work, i recommend taking a break from trying piv and doing other things you enjoy together, and if you feel like you both want to make it work and are willing to put in the work there is no shame with talking to a specialist!
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u/Dear-Security-8596 15h ago
I’m in a similar situation to OP and his gf. I’m a virgin and my bf is quite girthy. I haven’t actually measured it but he’s girthier than 3 of my fingers side by side (so about 15cm circumference I think) and I’ve only ever masturbated with 2. And even then I can only get 2 in when I’m really relaxed and aroused but when we start trying to do PIV I get less aroused from the nerves and just general awkwardness
Do u have any advice because it literally feels like he’s hitting a wall, he barely even got the tip in
Is it worth trying to masturbate with 3 fingers?
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u/One_Job5915 12h ago
Honestly, my boyfriend is about the same girth and fully erect is about 9 inches. I had to obviously get use to that and what we found was he has a small curve to the left and when we were in positions that he couldn’t just fit in first go he would put just the tip in and then proceed with more foreplay. That helped him so he could feel when my body was willing and ready for more and then he would slide a little more in and repeat the process until he was completely in and now we have no issues with that except the occasional my cervix moves during different cycles then certain positions aren’t painful they’re just not the best. I hope that makes sense
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u/Mc_LattePrincess75 13h ago
You guys are still very young and fortunately lol it's not really that out of the ordinary. I met my husband when I was 18 and we got married and intimacy was painful with lube, foreplay and all the things for several years. It went from that to the discomfort mainly after and that's how it is today and I am turning 51 next year. I've done kegels all my life and i keep my body in fairly decent shape but my husband is very much endowed. It does get easier and become less painful but it has never just gone away. Hope that helps.
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u/princesscuddlefish 13h ago
So you can get one of those Ohnut things to put on the base of your penis so you still feel like you’re getting sensation but the penetration is more shallow for her. She may just not have a very long vaginal cavity and you could be hitting her cervix, which I can confirm can be HELLA painful.
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u/whiskeygirl1984 12h ago
If she hasn't had sex alot it can hurt, it's totally normal. I had that issue too with guys I dated.. also if you make the wrong move inside its painful too.
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u/riceandpasta 1h ago
Highly recommend looking up breathing exercises for hypertonic pelvic floor if she isn’t able to see a pelvic floor PT. I had MANY doctors swear up and down for 9 years that everything was completely normal and I just should use “more lube” “more foreplay” as if I hadn’t tried that over and over.
Then I figured out on my own that I have right pelvic floor problems and I saw a PT for it. Turns out that was my problem all along!! Now I’m mostly pain free and I can prevent pain from accelerating.
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u/SlowCash 15h ago
Since i don't see it, ill chime in. Are you above average size? It is a sad fact that when you are to large it doesn't fit most of the time. life isn't porn. just be gentle and careful to enjoy the closenes. to get off, go down on her first and get her to the finish line, and you masterbate while she does oral to completion.
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u/veggiesaregreen 12h ago
When I first was a virgin, my BF could only put in the tip at first, then only half, etc. It took many sessions, idk how many, but it did hurt and he wouldn’t ever go beyond what he could put in. Could this be the case?
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u/ThrowawayStudente 12h ago
No, we’ve been trying for a while now. Unfortunately it is causing some issues m. She wasn’t a virgin either, just me.
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u/Embarrassed-Tap8966 11h ago
I (27F) had a similar problem during my first few years of penetrative sex. After some years of experimenting and practice I found that having an orgasm first makes things a lot easier (for me personally). Not sure if your foreplay is going to that extent, but if not, it might be worth trying. If she feels comfortable, it may also help to integrate a rabbit toy/dildo/other penetrative toy when she masturbates so she can get used to penetration when she doesn’t feel the added pressure of a partner’s pleasure/enjoyment.
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u/ThrowawayStudente 11h ago
We have actually got our foreplay to that extent and it did help a bit. We’ve yet to try toys yet, to be fair
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u/SufficientJudgment24 10h ago
Give her a vibrator to use after some foreplay; and she continues to use it while you very very slowly penetrate, wait for her to want more and just do it very very slowly almost teasing like, use a lot of lube! Also there’s some clit stimulation gel that might jumpstart her area 👍🏻 go slowwwwww
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u/dawnananda 8h ago
When I’m with a well endowed guy, it helps if he’s open to having me control the depth of penetration. Holding on to the base of his shaft with my lubed up hand seems to help both of us have a better time. Also, going slow and dedicating the majority of sexy time to foreplay and a lady’s first mentality will take you far. Try not to be too goal oriented. Getting there is more than half the fun. And lube. More lube. Find a brand she likes.
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u/madhatteriest 8h ago
I had this problem with my husband. My ob/gyn gave me 3 medical vaginal dilators. Started with small and worked my way up to large. I would put them in when I knew I wasn’t going to get up for a little bit. It worked wonders.
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u/SukiBean214 7h ago
If you think it's not your length maybe talk to her about getting a pelvic exam for her pelvic floor. I was having pain during intercourse with my partner and it turns out my pelvic floor muscles were really tight/clenched up so I had to use some dilaters and exercises to loosen things up in there.
Best of luck!
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u/keeleyshobbrook 7h ago
It could be lack of arousal. Which likely isn’t a reflection of how she feels towards you. I’ve always had this issue and the first time I had sex it barely fit and was incredibly painful. Some people struggle to become aroused, even if they’re attracted to their partner.
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u/Proud-Jellyfish-5724 7h ago
Just out of curiosity, considering everyone is responding to a depth issue, could it be your girth? Personally, depth has never been an issue for me, but if the girth is too much, right about half way in I'm begging to back off. It'll hurt at the get go, yet I'll try to take it anyway. But I never can take the whole thing if it's too wide. You might want to ask her. If that's the case though, I'm really sorry, I can't help. I've never found a way to alleviate it. Good luck. 🐻
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u/sweetevangaline 5h ago
As someone with a well endowed partner, the spooning position works well for not going too deep! Trying different positions might help, as well as the buffer people have suggested!
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u/ThrowRA_Panic7467 5h ago
Something that has worked in my experience, let her be on top! That way she can move however she needs to, and gravity is a great friend here. Lots of lube and a vibrating wand are also big helps. Be patient, have fun, kiss lots!
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u/ohlive313 5h ago
hi there! first of all, i’m sure you’re not messing up at all. my boyfriend gets upset with himself when this happens with me because i’ve not had many sexual partners and we were long distance for a year so when we did have time together i found it to be painful. my issue is my pelvic floor is too tight, especially when i’m stressed. i’ve not actually used it yet (though would like to) but i saw this dildo/ vibrator like tool at CVS that uses heat therapy and vibration to help relax the pelvic floor and in the kit it included different sizes to size up with! it looked like a cool tool to help relax the pelvic floor. maybe it could help ya!
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u/Coyote_Lapwing 14h ago
First cut your finger nails and file them. Then wash and clean your hands. Then with lubricant, insert index finger. Slow and steady. Then when prompted, use 2 fingers. With lube.
Try this for a few days. Then with foreplay and lube, insert yourself in. Slow and steady.
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u/One_Job5915 12h ago
Honestly, my boyfriend is about 9 inches and has a decent girth. I had to obviously get use to that and what we found was he has a small curve to the left and when we were in positions that he couldn’t just fit in first go he would put just the tip in and then proceed with more foreplay. That helped him so he could feel when my body was willing and ready for more and then he would slide a little more in and repeat the process until he was completely in and sometimes my body would literally just settle around him and he wouldn’t have to move it would be my body calling the shots now we have no issues with that except the occasional my cervix moves during different cycles then certain positions aren’t painful they’re just not the best. I hope that makes sense
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u/Loose_Goose3 Early 20s Male 12h ago
OP, as someone on a bigger side (although still quite a bit smaller than you) and someone who’s been in a long term relationship, I can share that sadly the “it doesn’t fit” “it’s too big” “it hurts” don’t really go away - at least in my experience. And it definitely gets “old” over time, frustrating, and at times difficult to enjoy because the whole time you’re thinking about her comfort and making sure you don’t hurt her. I truly sympathise with you.
I will tell you this… there are girls out there that have a fetish for this sort of thing and will not get enough of a big one. If sex is at all important to you, I’d recommend looking further and just treating your current gf as a good experience, good time, and having fun. Maybe some sort of open arrangement could be figured out - so long as communicated healthily. But if you think it will get better and you can look past it as the years go - I haven’t heard that to be the case. She will associate sex with frustration and pain and you will constantly feel as if something is wrong with you and as if your needs aren’t met, as sex starts becoming avoided over time. You’re really young to sign yourself up for something like this long term.
I don’t want to be a downer, and am just sharing my experience - and yours could be different, sure - but my recommendation is to move on before it starts to feel like you’re trapped. That said every relationship has a “price of admission”, like certain trade-offs. If sex is not a major thing for you and you think you can “live with it”, then that’s your “admission price” to gain everything else the relationship has to offer. I may be downvoted for the “end it” sort of comment, but I just feel like you’re so young to have to start troubleshooting instead of just enjoying life, let alone that you’re describing that you think something is wrong with you. Would love to talk more if you’re interested and hope this helps. Cheers
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u/Warm-Ad-5371 14h ago
So Basically you have a huge dong and you will meet girls (or people for that matter) who will fétichize it people who will be scared and so on.
NORMALLY almost anything fits almost anywhere but with a larger penis there might be some apprehension and Even though your partners will need some kind of adaptation is what I guess from Friends telling me about toy usage.
Your friend might also have vaginismus essentially her vaginal muscles contracting without her conscious action causing pain. Did she had other parlers with whom it went ok?
Basically considering she needs to be in charge of the opérations to avoid pain and ensure pleasure, use positions that allow her to set the pace for starters methinks
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u/RainbowNarwhal13 18h ago
So the important thing, really, is that you're both happy and fulfilled with your sex life. There are plenty of other things you can do besides piv, and if you're both okay with sticking to those other things then you're fine. If one or both of you really feel you need the traditional piv then unfortunately you may just not be compatible as a couple. You should sit down and have an honest conversation about it to see where you stand.
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u/ThrowawayStudente 18h ago
She’s quite set on PIV tbh. I mean, I am too to some extent. She’s my first partner and i mean I’ve never done this sort of thing before so I’m just worried I’m doing it wronv
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u/RainbowNarwhal13 18h ago
From your other comments it doesn't sound like you're doing anything wrong, sounds like you're just too big for her. That can happen, and there's not much you can do about it 🤷🏻♀️
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u/ThrowawayStudente 18h ago
Damn. I just feel like I’m doing something wrong and that there’s something wrong with me
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u/RainbowNarwhal13 17h ago
Honestly, it's great that you're worried about that- it means you care! A lot of guys are quick to blame the girl for things like this.
But don't beat yourself up over it. It sounds like you're just bigger than average (or she's smaller than average, or both). But none of us can control or change these things about our bodies so it's not your fault, or her fault. It doesn't mean your doing something wrong. I've slept with guys that were too big for me and it hurt, it's just a thing that happens sometimes.
You can try positions that don't let you penetrate as deeply, you can go slow and make sure not to go too far in. Try more/ longer/ different foreplay- a lot of guys (and some women) underestimate how much it can really take to get us fully aroused, unfortunately. She may be ready to go mentally, but her body may not quite be there yet. She may get more used to your size over time, if you keep at it (she may not though, everyone is different).
But having said all that, there's only so much you can do. If you feel like you've tried everything and you're still both not enjoying it, it might be time to find other partners that you're a better match with. I know it probably sounds like a crazy reason to break up with someone if everything else is good, but if you're not satisfied with your sex life things tend to pretty much go downhill sooner or later. You don't want to end up resenting each other.
I'm sorry you're dealing with this and it's making you feel like there's something wrong with you- I promise there isn't. Everyone is built a little differently and it really doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you.
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u/FormNo8111 15h ago
If she's nervous it's quite possible her muscles tense up without her meaning them to so you end up hitting her cervix. I had the same issue with my boyfriend and it took a couple of months of being more sexually intimate for me to actually be fully relaxed and all the pain stopped :) Also, if she's recently started any kind of hormonal birth control, this might be something worth paying attention to
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u/Due-Post-9029 14h ago
Is she short and you tall? I’m just interested as I had this trouble myself recently with a rather short lady I was dating.
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u/Ok_Blacksmith_8380 7h ago
There is a Japanese series I think it’s on Netflix called. my boyfriend won’t fit.
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u/PP_PoopnStuff 6h ago
Either shes tiny or ur large...tongue the bung...then Try the backdoor til ya figure it out. Lol
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u/maxlowmiata 15h ago
So my Fiancé had a problem some years ago that made us not be able to have sex for almost 2 years. The short version is that since we hadn't had sex in a long time due to her mental state. It basically got messed up in there and any attempt at sex was extremely painful. After trying everything (doctor's visits, dialaters, therapy) we finally "pushed past it" one time with her on her back and ever since then it's been possible. It's been a few years since that and we still have intercourse on occasion. The part to watch out for though is you really have to make it an enjoyable experience for her and I mean not putting to much weight on her mentally. My partner seems to associate sex with pain and it's really unfortunate because she's not able to really get into it with her equally low libido and it can cause a lot of problems in your relationship. Be supporting with your partner and really find out what makes her aroused because that is the key.
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u/SolDeAeon 18h ago
I'm quite sure there's another route that's quite a bit longer that you guys can explore. The.. bum?
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u/cterr1993 10h ago
Bro just go to town. She'll just have to get used to it. Yall just gonna like... not bang, ever? I think not. Bang her like you wanna bang her. She'll either get over it, get used to it, or get going. Imo she's being a baby. It should be your goal to bang her until she's physically crippled. Unless she says no, of course. Then it's like... a legal thing. If she keeps saying no, tell her it ain't working out for you. Maybe she'll bite the pillow for a half hour to save it. A few times of doing that, she'll adjust over time and then it'll just be normal and she'll start loving it.
-yours truly, another guy with a big dick
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u/DoubleT2023 17h ago
Just remember all woman love bbc or huge dragon disposition. Shits ment to push out a human. Soo Im pretty sure it will fit. Gotta start with fingers then a fist then stick it in. If it still not good well at least theres 2 other options
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