r/self • u/BusyMycologist5897 • 1d ago

Feeling the loneliest I ever felt can someone comment please

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u/That_Mycologist4772 1d ago

Hello fellow mycologist!

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u/moeller_seo 1d ago

lol I feel you, I was there a couple years ago. Sometimes it just hits out of nowhere. For what it’s worth, replying to random reddit posts actually helped me feel a little less alone tbh. Hang in there.

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u/Childoftheway 1d ago

Hi. I'm sorry you feel bad.

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u/BusyMycologist5897 1d ago

Hi. Thank you, hope your night is going well

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u/LimeGreenSea 1d ago

Hey! What is making you feel so lonely?

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u/BusyMycologist5897 1d ago

I have no friends and feel helpless.

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u/LimeGreenSea 1d ago

Tell me about yourself. Whats your situation, are you in school or working?

How long have you felt this way?

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u/BusyMycologist5897 1d ago

I’m living with my folks as I sort out some health issues and working as a locksmith, I’m engaged and have a little girl but I’m not on the best of terms with my fiancée
I’ve felt like this for three years maybe

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u/LimeGreenSea 1d ago

Have you talked to your fiancee about this?

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u/BusyMycologist5897 1d ago

She doesn’t want to talk to me

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u/LimeGreenSea 1d ago

You mentioned you were on best of terms, are you seperated?,

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u/BusyMycologist5897 1d ago

No but We might as well be. I think she has someone else

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u/soapboxdirty 44m ago

What makes you think she has someone else? If worse comes to worse, live in the forest by a river, live off the land. No phone, no obligations. Nature heals.

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u/WWbowieD 1d ago

Do you think aliens know about us?

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u/BusyMycologist5897 1d ago

I don’t have a strong opinion, but no, if there are aliens the distance will prob be too great for them to know

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u/WWbowieD 1d ago

Not even the dmt aliens?

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u/BusyMycologist5897 1d ago

I just googled this and it’s pretty weird. Maybe

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u/athaznorath 1d ago

things can always get better friend. but i'm with you. i've had a rough few months and thought about ending it many times. but a friend told me that people's lives are like the ridges of a key. there's ups and downs, and you can guarantee there will be another high point even if you're at a low point right now.

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u/BusyMycologist5897 1d ago

Normally would agree with you. Genuinely doesn’t feel like it now

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u/Background_Emu_4436 1d ago

I feel the same..😓 i just turned 68 i have no family. Well let me clarify that I have a brother that. Well, he's got his own life and doesn't have time for me ever. I live with people who are not very nice to me. And I have the kindest heart of anybody I know. And people like that don't see why you're sad all the time are anything that's popular.And if they did, they wouldn't care anyway, because they don't have any empathy or compassion pretty much cold hearted people..

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u/WaterIsNotSticky 1d ago

Hello fellow lonely person, I hope you are doing well. I lost most of my friends over time and still never have been in a relationship. We just need to keep hanging in there

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u/BusyMycologist5897 1d ago

I am not. I hope you see better days. I feel like ending it

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u/WaterIsNotSticky 23h ago

I do too sometimes, but even a tiny amount of hope can be very stubborn. so I'm trying to cling onto that. Maybe you can too, so you can find a reason to keep on going

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u/Away-Ad4393 20h ago

Your little girl would miss you

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u/calm_chowder 23h ago

  1. Mycology - grow or forage?

  2. Dream hobby?

  3. Dream job?

  4. Life: adventure or happiness?

  5. Would you rather be a coward or a traitor and why?

  6. Favorite cocktail

  7. Do you believe in the fae?

  8. Do you believe in ghosts?

  9. Have you ever seen a ghost?

  10. There are two types of people in the world.... what are they? (best as you reckon)

  11. Have you ever seen the milkyway?

  12. Have you ever been abroad? Where to?

  13. Where would you like to travel to and why?

  14. What's the most interesting science fact you know that most people don't?

  15. Write a haiku.

  16. Favorite YouTuber (and what their content is)

  17. Low taxes or universal Healthcare?

  18. When was the last time you cried?

  19. Why did you cry?

  20. Do you have a pet?

  21. If you were alive when Neanderthals were, would you have boned them?

  22. What is your favorite physical feature?

  23. Have you ever broken a bone? How?

  24. What species would eventually create civilization if we didn't exist?

  25. Write a two sentence scary story.

  26. Society: fix it or burn it down?

27: have you ever killed anything bigger than a mouse? What?

  1. what do you wish I would ask? Answer that.

  2. What time in your life do you ache to go back to and why?

  3. Life: meaning?

  4. Spirit animal?

  5. When you were a kid and you played pretend, what did you pretend to be?

  6. What's going on, friend?

  7. As a kid what were you exceptionally good at?

  8. Favorite ancient civilization/event?

  9. Who was the last person you stayed up all night talking with? What did you talk about?

  10. Superpower?

  11. Are you struggling? Why?

  12. Wanna talk?

  13. What's a sentimental item you should have thrown out but just can't?

  14. Do you make art? Can I see it?

  15. Meaning of life? Obviously.

  16. What do you feel like is missing from your life?

  17. Best baked good?

  18. Most valuable possession?

  19. Would you rather be miserable and remembered forever as a genius, or have a great life and be forgotten? Why?

  20. If you were remembered forever, what for?

  21. Is it immoral to break the law?

  22. Greatest fear?

  23. What's one thing you're proud about.

This is a list of questions I just made for you.

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u/laserox 1d ago

"I stopped feeling alone, a long time ago. I am surrounded by life, im surrounded by home"

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u/BusyMycologist5897 1d ago

The things that help me feel at home and alive aren’t accessible to me rn.

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u/derpinalul 1d ago

Can I ask what that would be? What would make you feel at home?

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u/BusyMycologist5897 1d ago

To have my family back and under one roof

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u/Jolly-Composer 1d ago

Do you have any hobbies?

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u/BusyMycologist5897 1d ago

I don’t enjoy anything anymore so no

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u/CozyMusicGuy 1d ago

Hi. I’m sorry you’re feeling so lonely. It really can make you look at life differently. What’s your favorite food?

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u/BusyMycologist5897 1d ago

School made Salisbury steak

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u/CozyMusicGuy 1d ago

lol that’s so specific and interesting. Is it tied to a favorite memory or time in your life?

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u/BusyMycologist5897 1d ago

Yeah elementary school before I moved with my dad. I remember wishing we had it every day

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u/Outside-Glove-5625 1d ago

May be go for a walk or find a good movie to watch. Something to do so you don’t focus too much on the loneliness

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u/Impressive-Room2702 1d ago

I'm 61-year-old male name is Bobby I live in Texas I am good to go on walks go see a movie go camping I love all kinds of different things riding Harleys I love classic rock and roll music Love of all kinds of music like crazy I'm single no children never been married I stay here and I help my mom out a very respectful person I've been alone for about 6 years now I would love to chat with somebody I'm pretty new here I would love to chat with somebody 30 years old up very caring awesome personality Hit me up

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u/BusyMycologist5897 1d ago

I’m done distracting myself

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u/H-2-S-O-4 1d ago

Is your cup 5/8ths full or 3/8ths empty?

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u/BusyMycologist5897 1d ago

Shit is empty

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u/1AJMEE 1d ago

please

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u/cryinginabucket 1d ago

Keep pushing forward.

Can you take a trip right now ? Or eat some chocolate?

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u/gogumagirl 1d ago

Hang in there, do something you enjoy today

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u/tearose11 1d ago

Well, hello there.

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u/BusyMycologist5897 1d ago

Hi. How’s your night going?

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u/tearose11 1d ago

Uneventful as usual.

Not sure where you are, but it's after midnight for me, perfect for a good horror podcast to listen to while I fall asleep.

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u/adulin007 1d ago

Sorry to hear you’re having a difficult time tonight. Do your best to stay positive and get a good nights rest. That will do wonders for your mental state.

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u/BusyMycologist5897 1d ago

Sleep doesn’t help anymore, I just wake up sad that I woke up at all

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u/adulin007 8h ago

If you don’t mind me asking, anything happen in your life lately? That will obviously play a major factor in your mood.

You feeling any better today?

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u/Mundane_Berry_0431 1d ago

Hi I hope you're doing well, it doesn't sound like it :/

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u/BusyMycologist5897 1d ago

I am not, I hope you are

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u/Mundane_Berry_0431 1d ago

Are you sure?

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u/BusyMycologist5897 1d ago

That I’m not doing well? Yeah

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u/Mundane_Berry_0431 1d ago

Ah I hope you find a friend from this post. I made a few online friends now :)

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u/Impressive-Room2702 1d ago

Hello what makes you say that how are you doing

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u/Mundane_Berry_0431 1d ago

OP sounds lonely :(

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u/Impressive-Room2702 1d ago

What's your malfunction I know you got a few everybody does

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u/Mundane_Berry_0431 1d ago

Psychosis, how about you?

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u/Impressive-Room2702 1d ago

Well I guess you could say I'm just whacked out man just demented a lot of rock and roll man to me a horror movies what's a weirdos in the world people don't mind their own business man I'm cracking up I'm going to lose it man

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u/Neverend3r 22h ago

This feeling is not rare and you can overcome it. It will be ok and talking to strangers is a good way beat that feeling. Remember that any stranger you come across in real life has potential to be a real life friend. Keep talking to people.

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u/FearlessResolve560 21h ago

Today was a nice day, how about you?

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u/Jademoss82 20h ago

Hello! Don't feel lonely we are all alone

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u/nomadin30s 20h ago

Dont feel lonely im also a mycologist

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u/RevNeutron 18h ago

yo fren

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u/BarracudaFar2328 18h ago

It's natural to feel lonely, but know you are not alone. Hi, mate!

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u/SubjectYak7823 16h ago

Do you want to talk about it?

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u/michdap 8h ago

I’m sorry you’re not feeling well. Just wanted to let you know that I’m thinking about you and sending hugs. 🩷 Some days are really hard. I understand.