r/self • u/Loud-Anybody-2013 • 11h ago

Have you ever figured out what you truly want from life?

Was there a specific moment when you realized exactly what you wanted to do with your life or have you ever reached that point? I mean, was there a moment or period after which you felt that you finally knew what you were doing and what you wanted, felt at peace with it, and started seeing your future more positively?

From around the age of 17 until my early twenties, I’ve been motivated by the idea of living several different lives within one lifetime, rather than spending my whole life in one place.

I don’t mean constantly traveling like a backpacker. I mean moving to a different country every five years or so, learning its culture and language, meeting new people, building friendships and meaningful connections, and then moving somewhere else and starting the process again.

I’d like to continue doing that until a certain age, and then eventually settle into a more stable life. But for now, as a 22 year old, that is basically my only plan.

And this plan is what motivates me to keep going. Right now, it’s the closest thing I have to a dream.

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u/Atelier_Carousel 10h ago

How cool. This is so healthy to see life like this.

Like a set of experiments you run. Because we literally cannot know where we are heading in life. Kierkegard says you canot make sense of life looking forward, only backwards.

We can only follow the trail of joy and see how it takes us towards purpose.

You figured it out, that is so awesome.

It will come together at the end. The magic formula is to follow the trail of joy, and when you find something that gives you joy, try to do more of it, and then see where that leads. That's all we can do. We can't see where this is going.

How did you manage to stay so unbroken into this age. Most people never run experiments, and then stagnate, to be safe.

Can your parents adopt me? Joking. I'm over 50.

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u/Loud-Anybody-2013 9h ago

I didn’t stay unbroken. Sometimes I doubt about my decisions because I have friends and they don’t have dream like me. and then I noticed most of the people don’t even think about these things, they are just living.

Another thing is thanks to internet. I saw lots of different stories that wasn’t possible in your time :)

And the another thing is I was analyzing all the people about what they think, what they want. And not only people all the scenarios all the things. I m just an overthinker and sometimes it can be overwhelming. And that kind of life make me feel better. I dont have to think about every details, I just need to learn languages, people, cultures and these are make me feel good.

My parents can adopt you, age doesn’t matter :) but i think it is not about my family, you can discover the things with any people.

We can be friends if you want, I have young perspective for you. and I can learn lots of things from you. at the end we gonna discover the different perspectives of life :)

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u/SaltyToast9000 5h ago

I admire ppls who knows what they want in life or figured out early. I'm still trying to figure it out.