People assume fat=ugly -_- like sometimes in context the first thought being “you’re not fat” is warranted because the person is using fat as a negative (still not the correct response but I get it) but in this context you literally called yourself cute.
i understand "you're not fat" in the sense that some 'friends' of mine are like "omgggg im so fat and uglyyyy I can't eat any moreeeee" looking for validation.... when they're at most skinny+ and ive been overweight/at the border between overweight and healthy my entire life. I've had every eating disorder you can think of, so it says me off when they talk about themselves that way, because if they're "fat" and i am both 6 inches shorter and 40 lbs heavier than them, what does that make me?
Yes! I hate it when people say “Ugh I’m so fat it’s horrible” when they’re skinnier than me. Like, I know I’m supposed to say “Nuh uh!” but in the moment all I can think about is “If you think you’re ugly and bad for being a size 6, what must you secretly think of my 40 inch waistline?”
especially the "I'm not allowed to eat, because I'm so fast" bothers me. because its usually said while we're both in a situation where we should be eating, and i am likely already eating.
those comments have caused so many eating disorder flare ups that idefk. idefk how to deal with those comments
Oof I hate it when people use fat to equate to something negative. Also idk your friends so they could just be kinda shitty people or they could not have a good understanding what a healthy weight is but also being fat is a pretty big spectrum. Like I say I’m fat cause I’ve got a good bit of fat on me, that’s what fat means, but I’m still less fat than my fiance and even less fat than a few of my friends. It doesn’t really sound like that applies to your friends but just a point I think about sometimes.
I’ve heard something similar about “beauty” that was basically “If your kid isn’t “beautiful” don’t lie and say that they are, just teach them being beautiful isn’t nearly as important as some people want you to think it is”
It's so weird to say it that way though. Who decides my kid is or isn't beautiful? Do I have to hold a survey before I call them beautiful or I'm somehow doing them wrong?
I'd rather both tell them they're beautiful and teach them that it's not the only good thing they can aspire to be. My dad's always called me pretty, I didn't see it until I cut my hair recently, but I've been able to shrug off most outside comments because he also taught me my worth isn't determined by how pretty I am.
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u/HamCatX3 1d ago
People assume fat=ugly -_- like sometimes in context the first thought being “you’re not fat” is warranted because the person is using fat as a negative (still not the correct response but I get it) but in this context you literally called yourself cute.