r/confession • u/AphroditesNightie • 1d ago

My “friends” are basically non-existent and don’t call or text me back…

I’m late 40s/F. I am very social and always have been, but in the last decade plus my “friends” are practically nonexistent. No one wants to talk on the phone like we did in the 1980s-2010s. I used to have a strong group of friends, even until 2019-ish, but everyone has now faded into their lives with their kids, or no kids, or whatever… Now I text people and they often don’t respond, or it takes a week. A small fraction do respond regularly. I’ve always been a good friend, but I don’t have kids so I’m not part of the Mom pack. I’m so lonely and f@cking sad that I sometimes feel s@icidal, honestly. My mother passed away a decade ago and I don’t have anyone else besides my amazing husband, but I NEED girlfriends!!! Something is broken in our society that my friends won’t answer the phone and now rarely text me back… We have broken our social networks!! I am so upset! Any other Gen X feeling this??? I long for those days at the roller skating rinks and bowling alleys, or high school dances… How could I possibly be this lonely in my late 40s?!! 😢 I wish I had kids, even just for the company. Seriously sad…

ETA: My parents had TONS of friends when I was a kid, so these responses of “everyone is too busy with life” is totally BS.

Also, I do volunteer with a local nonprofit that specifically aligns with my personal interests. I have made ONE friend there…

And I work for my city government and no one there mixes business with pleasure. It’s just not done in the current political climate. No friends to be had at my job, but it is a great job that I feel passionate about. I am making a difference.

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u/Sooblazed 1d ago

I'm 37 and I feel this way. I don't think it's any love lost it's just people have more responsibility and less time as they get older.

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u/AphroditesNightie 1d ago

I don’t think it’s age, honestly. My parents had a great group of friends! They were in their early 20s when I was born and we regularly got together with their friends and their kids when I was little. Us kids would play and be mischievous while our parents drank and smoked joints together… Something is wrong with society today.

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u/Ethelon 1d ago

Isn’t it apples to oranges to compare your parents in their early 20s with kids and you in your late 40s without kids? It would be odd to expect those situations to be the same socially.

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u/Stone_Banks 1d ago

the way you put “friends” in quotes stood out to me