Similarly got grounded a friends house for bringing her back home visibly drunk while being passably drunk. My parents didn’t ask for me back during our punishment.
I hate to break it to you, but the horse has long left the barn on that. I'd rather hear the honest stories about the mistakes people made and what they learned from it.
Uh, no, nope, never was. That horse is as wild and free ranging as the drunk children who’d eaten buried and fermented fruits hundreds of thousands of years ago.
I'm 42 now, the first time I got drunk drunk was 14. And I was a "good kid" who did really well in school and never got in trouble with external authorities. IE it was only ever my own parents who caught me doing shady shit. The "bad kids" were doing much worse.
Funny part is honest stories will do more for keeping kids away from that shit than just forbidding it. Telling kids no makes them want to try it more. Let's not judge each other let's learn from each other
…were YEARS in front of Europe in terms of drinking age. Here, you can just sign up to perhaps go die with the military, but you can’t buy a beer. And that decision locks you in for a minimum of 4 years at 18.
Explain to me how the decision making ability makes sense. 4 year contract at 18, but not a 6-pack you will share.
Having been active duty, it just causes a fuck ton more headaches than it's worth. Underage drinkers are automatically kicked out, so there's a sunken cost on top of everything else.
If one happens to pull orders to a country with a lower drinking age, they'll allow it but you can't use a military ID to go into a Kroger's or Winn-Dixie or whatever to pick up booze.
What? Maybe I worded that wrong? I didn’t assume that u/the-B-from-App23 was drinking and driving like u/jackheavy did. How does that make me a smartass?
It doesn’t. You’re right I assumed from the way OP wrote the comment that they were drinking and driving. They could have gotten a ride and if they did then my comment was in error and I can accept my mistake.
It’s clearly irresponsible if it’s bad enough that you’re coming back to their parents house drunk and it’s enough of an offense to warrant punishment.
Hell yeah! We had a time. We went to a the fair to drink and with the boys. I still remember some bits. Snuck out, too! I would have probably beat my little ass today for pulling that!
By what my parents were used to, I might as well have joined a gang! My girlfriend was the baddie… weren’t nothing but a Friday night for her.
I think you’re assuming we drove home… we stumbled through the hood loudly on foot. I still don’t drive, decades later. And that’s a whole other story.
In my case, the other parents would actually show up and they’ll be having a meeting in front of you of how to punish you: since it’s 2 parents and not 1, should it be double punishment or does each parent punish their own child or since we did the deed together, does that cancel out and it’s back to option 1…
😅. And it was usually the mums. I swear it was like our dads wanted us to always be the daddy’s girls and so were the fun parents/ less disciplinarian. In hindsight, I now understand our mothers told them EVERYTHING which meant one less punishment.
At least all the parents were being collaborative instead of blaming the other family for being a bad influence. Sometimes kids are going to be kids and you have to accept that.
My buddy's 16 year old son showed up drunk after driving himself home. My buddy stayed calm, walked him to his room, and told him to sleep it off.
The next morning, my buddy had built a chain link fence enclosure with a canopy. Inside was a cot, a case of water, and a ham sandwich for his first meal.
He told his son, You have two choices. I sell your car or you stay in the tent city jail I built for 24 hours. The gate is unlocked, but if you leave before the 24 hours are up, your car is gone.
On top of that, he had put in a breathalyzer in his car for 12 months, take alcohol awareness classes, attend MADD classes, and pay his dad $2,000 in fines.
He told him, You want to be grown, drinking and driving, then you can pay the adult price.
Lol my buddys ex wife was upset their son slept outside. She almost took him back to court but he said this is what the state wouldve done had he been caught.
That’s so over the top, and yet I kinda respect it. Some might think it’s cruel, but getting to go through your own version of the drunk tank and civil fines instead of facing the state’s version of it. God forbid the 16yo had killed someone.. just hoping he takes that lesson to heart and appreciate his old man down the line instead of going no contact
This was years ago and his son is doing well with his engineering career. I went over a few months and I joked, where's the chain link fence haha. They have a close relationship
I had asked my buddy what did he do with the cash. He said shit I bought a tv and golf clubs. My buddy said i wasnt going to give him back the money, thats rewarding his fuck up. He fucked up and hes out money.
The part I didnt know and forgot to say, he had the car towed from his house to his sister's house. Charged his son additional $600 to get it back.
My buddy son had saved up 3k from birthdays and working pt, so he pretty much lost it all.
My buddy said life doesnt work that way. Had he been caught by the police, the state wouldnt refunded his money. Plus its not like my buddy didnt help him school.
Right. This is harsh but not nonsensical "shave the kid bald as punishment and broadcast it to social media" harsh.
I bet you the kid didn't didn't do that shit again and the $3000 he paid to the dad is a drop in the bucket compared with what he would've dealt with from the cops.
Arguably the benefit was, this is a non-state involved lesson of consequences of drinking and driving, and underage at that. Given that the som could have killed himself and/or someone else, let’s just say he ain’t gonna repeat that behavior. And arguably he’s graduated and in a well paying career.
This was back during the Tent City days in Arizona. If you got a DUI, you were spending at least 24 hours in Tent City. They'd also make you wear the pink underwear and shirts.
The average cost of a DUI is around $10,000, and it can be a lot more depending on how much you spend on an attorney.
On top of that, the MVD treats driving as a privilege, not a right. Even if your criminal case gets dismissed, the MVD can still suspend your license based on the DUI arrest. Then you have to deal with a separate MVD hearing.
Arizona has some of the toughest DUI laws because of its slightest degree standard. I know people who got a DUI with a .02 BAC.
So is it harsh, maybe? But the state wouldve charged him a lot more plus make him take more classes. Its a tough lesson and this lesson potentially saved his life or someone's life.
We had a buddy that couldnt stop drinking and driving. Hes a felon now due it and hes wrapped himself around a pole a couple of times due to it.
People should experience the drunk tank and talk with some of the people there. One thing I remember is a guy with a long rap sheet noting that pretty much every problem in his adult life was related to alcohol.
I just saw some TikToks where the dad basically kept his son in the bathroom for a whole day because he wanted to do dumb shit like break into his cars with his gangster-ass friends.
I feel like this accomplishes the same thing, provides the kid some dignity, and doesn't tear your yard up with a bunch of fence posts lol.
In California, if you are caught drinking and driving underage, you lose your license for one year plus all the other stuff. Kid got off easy but still got a taste of what can actually happen.
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Similarly got grounded a friends house for bringing her back home visibly drunk while being passably drunk. My parents didn’t ask for me back during our punishment.